Is It That Big of a Deal?
We aren’t allowed to choose anything about ourselves before we enter this world.
We aren’t permitted to choose our hair or eye color as many of our attributes are given to us, courtesy of our parents.
Above all, we don’t choose our family, who in most cases who play a significant role in our growth and development. Although we have different realities shaped by positive or negative experiences, our families are an aspect of our lives that binds us together.
With that said, those closest to us often create an aura of annoyance through disagreements, or poorly chosen words leading us to be thoroughly irritated.
Have you argued with a sibling or family member over the last plate of food, a piece of clothing, or anything of that nature? Don’t be afraid to raise your hand and wave it high as these arguments are bound to arise among the people we live with.
However, are these argumentative conversations truly necessary?
Is it that big of a deal?
Of course, this way of thinking does not pertain to toxic, unpredictable family members but to those that add value to our lives despite the disputes that occur. While I sat in church a few weeks ago, the pastor discussed the importance of family and the need for transparency with those we love.
You know those light bulb moments in animated movies, where the character suddenly has a life-changing epiphany?
Well, while sitting in the third pew, I thoroughly acknowledged the importance of speaking openly and truthfully with our loved ones. Although some conversations are difficult to have, it’s refreshing to develop an open line of communication.
That has allowed me to view my interactions with my family members in a different light and examine everything through the lens of perspective and priority.
This is a constant reminder that everything is not as big of a deal as it may seem at the time. For instance, that unwashed dish in the sink doesn’t necessarily need to spark a loud uproar.
However, this doesn’t mean we should become door mats and allow family members to walk over us or treat us disrespectfully.
Instead, we can view our conversations and disagreements from a place of priority.
Some of us are blessed to have close family members such as our parents or siblings so it’s only right that we guard these relationships and think of the larger picture.
Thanks for reading!
What are your thoughts on focusing on the bigger picture when it comes to family members or those closest to us?
