Ten Signs your Partner is no longer in love with You according to Psychology Experts

Grant Nwakanma
The Live. Love. Laugh. Pub
9 min readMar 21, 2024
Photo by Chalo Garcia on Unsplash

Navigating the landscape of love is never straight forward. There’s always a degree of certainty involved when it comes to figuring out what your partner is truly feeling.

You may be in a relationship where you feel something has shifted, but you can’t quite put your finger on what. It’s like a cold breeze that seeps in slowly, the warmth of your partner’s love waning without clear reason.

Sometimes, your partner might be falling out of love with you and you might not even realize it. But according to Psychology, there are subtle signs that can offer insight into your partner’s emotions.

These signs are not always obvious, but they are there if you know where to look. Here I’ll share with you ten signs your partner has fallen out of love with you. If these sounds familiar, it may be time to initiate an open and honest discussion about your relationship.

They become emotionally distant

Emotional intimacy forms the backbone of any relationship. It’s that invisible thread that connects two hearts, allowing them to feel each other’s joy, pain and everything in between. But what if that thread begins to fray? In the realm of love, emotional distance is often a red flag. According to Psychologists, this emotional distance might be a clear sign that your partner’s feelings have changed.

When a partner starts to fall out of love, they might begin to create a mental and emotional gap. It might seem like they’ve built an invisible wall around themselves. This isn’t about physical distance — they might be sitting right next to you but their mind is miles away. You may notice less affection and a general lack of interest in sharing their thoughts and feelings.

They might seem disinterested in your day, or the hear to heart conversations that you used to enjoy might become few and far between. It’s not always easy to spot but if you notice your partner seem more distant than usual, it could be subtle signs that they are falling out of love. It’s important not to jump to conclusions immediately though. Try initiating a conversation about it, sometimes it could be stress or other personal issues causing this change.

They become highly critical

Criticism, when constructive can help us grow. But when it becomes a constant occurrence, it can erode the very foundation of a relationship. If your partner has become overly critical, pointing out your every mistake or flaw without any constructive intent, it could be a sign that they are no longer in love.

According to Psychologists, this can be a sign of underlying dissatisfaction in the relationship. The small annoyances that they once overlooked have now magnified because their feelings have changed. In a healthy relationship, partners support each other’s growth without resorting to constant criticism. If you find that your partner’s criticism is more hurtful than helpful, it might be worth having a conversation about it.

Their behavior might stem from stress or frustration, but it could also indicate deeper issues in your relationship.

They seem constantly irritated

Every one has their off days, moments when everything seems to get under their skin. But what if these moments turn into a constant state? If your partner seems to be persistently irritated by your presence, snapping at minor issues or showing frustration over things they previously overlooked, it could be a sign of emotional distance.

It’s like walking on eggshells, never knowing what might trigger another outburst. This kind of behavior can create a hostile environment, chipping away the love and respect that forms the foundation of a relationship.

Communication is key. It’s essential to approach your partner on their change in behavior. They could be dealing with personal stress or issues that they’re unintentionally projecting unto you. However, if this irritation persists along with other signs on this list, it may indicate that they’ve fallen out of love.

They’ve stopped saying “I love you"

The three little words “I love you” can carry a lot of weight in a relationship. When your partner is in love, they often express it freely, whether it’s through words, gestures or actions. It’s a verbal and emotional affirmation of their feelings for you.

But what if those words stop coming?

If your partner has stopped saying I love you, or If these words feel hollow and devoid of emotion, it can feel like a punch to the gut. It’s like a silent confirmation of your worst fears that their feelings for you have changed.

It’s as if they’ve become reluctant to express their love or they’re deliberately holding back. This absence can be especially noticable if your partner used to say I love you regularly. It’s like a missing puzzle piece that used to fit perfectly. Yet remember not to panic if they’re not saying it as often. Some people just aren’t as verbal with their feelings. But if it’s combined with other signs, it could be a subtle indicator that your partner is no longer in love with you.

They’re spending less time with you

Time spent together is one of the cornerstones of any relationship. It is during these moments that you connect, share experiences and build memories. But when a partner starts to fall out of love, they might seek to spend less time with you.

You might notice they’re suddenly busier than usual, they’re spending more time at work or with friends, or they’re finding new hobbies that don’t involve you. This shift can be subtle at first. Maybe they’re starting to take longer to reply to your texts, or they’re often too tired for date nights.

Remember it’s perfectly healthy for partners to have their own interests and spend time apart, but if your shared moments are consistently shrinking it might be a sign that their feelings have changed. As always, look for patterns and consider this sign in the context of other changes you’ve noticed.

They no longer share their dreams and plans with you

One of the most beautiful things about being in love is dreaming together. You plan your futures, discuss your goals, and imagine what life might hold for you both. When your partner is in love, they naturally include you in their future plans. You’re an integral part of their dreams and aspirations. They talk about “we" instead of “I”.

But when feelings change, this can shift. They might start talking more about their individual plans or stop discussing the future altogether. It’s as if they can no longer see you in their tomorrow. This change can be incredibly painful because it strikes at the heart of your shared hopes and dreams. But remember it’s just one sign among many.

As always consider it in the context of other changes you’ve noticed in your relationship.

They’ve stopped asking about your day

In past relationships, I’ve noticed that one of the first things to go when feelings change is the little daily check ins. When you’re in love, you’re genuinely interested in your partner’s day. You want to know what made them smile, what frustrated them, or what they’re looking forward to tomorrow. But I remember once dating someone who stopped asking about my day.

At first I thought they were just preoccupied with their own problems but then I realized it was more than that. They’d stopped taking an interest in my life, and it felt like they didn’t really care anymore. This might seem like a small thing but it’s these little details that make up the fabric of your relationship.

If your partner stops asking about your day or doesn’t seem interested in your feelings or experiences, it might be a subtle sigh that their feelings have changed. As always, try not to jump to conclusions based on this sign alone. Look for patterns and consider it in the context of other changes you’ve noticed.

They avoid future planning

Planning for the future together is a significant part of being in a committed relationship. It’s like laying the bricks for a shared path, one that both of you will work on together.

But what happens when your partner starts avoiding these discussions?

If your partner has stopped talking about future plans or becomes evasive when you bring up topics like vacations, buying a house, or even simple plans like a dinner date next week, it could be a sign that they’re pulling away emotionally.

According to Psychologists, when someone is in love, they look forward to building a future with their partner. If your partner is avoiding future oriented conversations, it might be a sign that they’re uncertain about the relationship’s future. Once again, it’s crucial to communicate your concerns.

It could be that they’re dealing with personal issues that are making them uncertain about the future. But, it could also be a sign that they’ve fallen out of love.

They’re more secretive with their phone

In today’s digital age, our phones can reveal a lot about us. They hold our secrets, our conversations and connections. When a partner is in love they’re usually open with their phone usage. They don’t mind if you see who they’re texting or what they’re posting on social media.

But when feelings change, you might notice your partner becoming more secretive with their phone. Maybe they’re taking calls in another room, or they get defensive when you come near while they’re texting. This behavior might not mean that they’re cheating or doing anything wrong but it could mean that they’re creating a barrier or a distance between you.

Again don’t jump to conclusions based on this sign alone. It’s when you notice a combination of these signs that you might need to start asking some more serious questions.

They no longer make an effort to resolve conflict

In any relationship, conflicts are inevitable. It’s how you handle these conflicts that truly matter. When your partner is in love they’re willing to work through problems, misunderstandings or disagreement. They make an effort to understand your point of view and find a resolution.

But when feelings have changed they might no longer feel interested in resolving conflicts. They might dismiss your concerns, avoid difficult conversations or let issues linger without resolution. This might be one of the most telling signs that your partner has fallen out of love.

When someone cares about you, they care about your happiness and the health of the relationship. If they’re not willing to work through conflicts anymore, it might be because they no longer feel invested in the relationship.

Understanding the complexity of love

Love, in all it’s beautiful and sometimes heartbreaking complexities, is not a static motion. It shifts, evolves and transforms overtime. Just as a river changes course over the years, carving new paths and reshaping the landscape, love too can change it’s course within a relationship.

It’s essential to understand that falling out of love doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not an abrupt event but a gradual process that happens over time. It’s like a slow morning storm, gathering momentum until it’s presence becomes undeniable.

If your partner is exhibiting some or all of these signs listed above, it could indeed indicate that they’ve fallen out of love. However, it could also be a sign of deeper personal issues or a phase in their life where they’re feeling emotionally overwhelmed or disconnected.

Don’t forget that people express love differently — what might seem like withdrawal to you might be their way of dealing with stress or personal issues. The most crucial aspect of navigating such situation is open, honest communication.

It’s like opening the windows during a storm — it’s scary, the wind might howl and the rain might pour in, but it also allows you to see the storm for what it is.

Approach your partner with your concerns and try to understand their perspective. It’s not about finding blames or rushing to conclusions but about understanding each other better. And remember while love is a vital component of any relationship, it’s not the only one.

Respect, communication, understanding, and compatibility play equally important roles in sustaining a relationship. Falling out of love can be painful and confusing. But it’s also a chance for introspection and growth, an opportunity to learn more about yourself, your desires, your needs, and your capacity for resilience.

Every end is also a new beginning whether that means the start of a journey to rekindle your relationship or the beginning of a new chapter in your life.

In both cases the journey is worth it, and you come out stronger on the other side.

Thanks for reading.

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Grant Nwakanma
The Live. Love. Laugh. Pub

My ambition is to be more than just a writer. The elevation of today's generation if I could make them listen.