How to cope with Transformations and Terminations in Relationships?
There is Hope.
#Relationships
For most souls, relationships are everything in their world. As relationships are part of life, the same way changes are part of the relationships. And with the change, pain, heartbreak, and loneliness are inevitable. In this article, we will particularly comprehend how we can lessen the pain given by these changes or let’s say given by the transformation and the termination in relationships.
We believe it or not, this pandemic had played huge role making or destroying our relationships. So, this article might help you understand the situation better.
Thin Line Between Transformation & Termination
When we refer to a change in relationships, there is a thin line we need to identify. The line between Transformation and Termination. This line is hard to draw. Remember, when you feel, your relationship with someone has terminated, you should give it a second thought. Maybe it is not termination, it could be a beautiful transformation.
For example, you are thinking your divorce with your partner is a terminated relationship with your husband/wife. On the other hand, it could become a beautiful co-parenting relationship. Instead of thinking about termination, you should think about the transformation that just happened. From husband and wife to co-parents could be the new and beautiful experience. We should always look at the positive side.
Both transformation and termination will indeed give us pain. When any relational dynamics changes, heartbreak is inevitable.
There is a simple solution to this problem.
#Say no to blame game
Yes, we have to stop blaming and start to become kinder to over self. Blaming self and others is like diving into nothingness. Darkness and nothingness together creates empty hole so, you don’t want to slip in.
#Don’t be threatened
We fear change!
Sometimes thinking about any change with an existing relationship could threaten you but, you don’t have to fear change, it will pass if you will let it pass.
Let it change and see what happens.
Self-care and self-acceptance will help coping with the transformation & termination.
Positive Relationship Transformations
There are other positive transformations too, which could lead to conflicts after a lot of emotional investments. Like the transformation of your friendship to business relations, from strangers to step mothering or step fathering, from teacher-students to colleagues and from boyfriend and girlfriend to husband and wife and I can go on and on with this list.
These transformations are positive once yet, we should remember that they could bring conflicts with them. These transformations bring new dynamics and new dynamics could bring conflicts. So, here we are supposed to maintain the relationship we have or the relationship which we are going to step in.
So, what should be done?
Finding comfort within differences and respecting each other is one of the easiest ways to keep a healthy transformed or transforming relationship.
#Be Your Self
Don’t try to change your self and the other person, behaving the way other people want you to and pressuring someone to behave the way you want them to will not last forever.
#Give Personal space
New dynamics take time to bloom. You don’t need to barge in. Take time, and give time.
# To Be Noted
