- Why Are People Obsessed With Being Perfect?
- Strive to Become the Best Version for Yourself
- A Small Step Still Moves You Forward
- Results Will Come
“Have no fear of perfection — you’ll never reach it.” — Salvador Dali
Are you a perfectionist?
What do you think it’s more important, getting any kind of results or achieving the perfect results?
I’ve met many people who will say that when you do something you’ve got to do it right. I, myself, to some extent also support this claim. When you want to reach your goal, you have to work hard to get there. There is no backing down, nor quitting. It should be out of the picture.
Once you start, the worst thing would be to give up.
However, let’s say your efforts show results. Now, how much longer should you push for better results, and what is the breaking point that can turn your efforts and your results into failure? Unfortunately, this is a possible outcome, one that happens when you can’t recognize your limits.
In today’s world, where the competition is fiercer than ever before, people believe that in order to stand out they have to reach perfection. What they don’t realize is that perfection is a state of mind, something that differs from person to person.
You can strive for perfection, but you will never fully reach it.
It’s much better to be your unique self, and strive to make progress, rather than perfection.
Why Are People Obsessed With Being Perfect?
There is no single answer to this question, although I recently stumbled across something that really made me think about our ambitious, sometimes greedy, human nature.
It said that people are obsessed with perfection because it’s the only thing that they haven’t achieved yet.
When you think about it, it’s relatively true. Perfection is in the eyes of the beholder.
It’s a relative thing, not a rule, a law, or something that can be defined. It’s also why no one can achieve the perfect results, no matter how hard they try.
The desire for perfection is a burden that, instead of showing better results, drives people into despair and makes them unhappy.
The more you strive to do perfect and be perfect, the further away you are from real progress.
In this era of social media, the need for perfection is even more enhanced by people who want to be noticed. It’s bestowed on us as something that, if not reached, will make us less worthy.
In reality, this is far from the truth.
Perfection has nothing to do with your worth.
Your worth is calculated in the progress you make in your life, the effort you put in your goals, and how much you are trying to make a change for the better.
Your worth is measured in self-growth and the meaningful connections you build with the people you love and respect.
It’s not about perfection, it’s about results.
Strive to Become the Best Version for Yourself
While perfection at work, or at school can be reached by getting the best grades or the best results, it has its own limits. Eventually, you will notice that some things are better the way they are, as long as they make you feel happy and accomplished.
Often, people want to become better than others and do better than others. It’s in our nature to get jealous, but the way we handle it distinguishes ambitious from greedy people. It sets the boundaries between healthy ambition and progress.
Often people want to change to fulfill someone else’s expectations, and this is by all means wrong.
Don’t change for others. Change for yourself.
If you focus on becoming a better person for yourself and lose the jealousy and envy, you will no longer need to strive for perfection, and you will eventually realize how far you’ve come on your journey.
A growth-mindset sets you up for progress, and it’s precisely what will make you stand out from the crowd. No matter how small the steps are, the important thing is to keep going.
A Small Step Still Moves You Forward
Many overachievers are considered to be perfectionists. They try hard to get the best possible results, without realizing that they are sometimes doing more than enough, and often at the cost of their happiness.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that it’s a bad thing to be an overachiever or overly ambitions, I am just pointing out the hardships that can come from that.
People often underestimate the small things in life. They disregard the small victories, and the steps they took to get there. In reality, each step you take on your journey counts and is equally important for the overall success.
Sometimes, it’s best to focus on the present and celebrate what you managed to achieve up to this point in your life. Not only will you see the progress, but you will also get inspired to do more and do better.
Results Will Come
If you work hard enough, remain persistent in your efforts to reach a certain goal, and keep your motivation high, there is nothing stopping you from getting the results you strive for.
They will show once you are ready to accept growth and change as part of life. But striving for perfection means that you are still not prepared for the next step.
Often, although oblivious about it, we glorify perfection because we are afraid of real results. In other words, unconsciously knowing that there is no such thing as reaching this concept, we strive away from real results and real recognition.
What you are doing doesn’t necessarily have to be perfect for others, it just has to be good enough for you. It has to make you happy and satisfied. Instead of focusing on making it better than it already is, allow yourself to move on to another goal.
Time is a limited resource and it goes by so fast. Don’t allow yourself to lose precious moments and opportunities on something that already showed results.
Finally, if you think that what you are doing is not good enough, reevaluate your decisions, find your mistakes and fix them. But don’t overthink things, as this won't bring you any good.
Once you feel that you are closer to your goals and that your effort has paid off, it means that you’ve done a great job and its time to move forward.
Instead of trying to convince the world of your greatness, convince yourself that you are capable of growth.
Always strive for progress in any way, whether it’s a work-related or a personal goal. It’s the only and best way to stand out positively and actually get noticed.
Stop focusing on perfection, and start focusing on your happiness.
Accept your imperfections, and work on them until they become your greatest advantage.
And remember, whatever you are working on right now, it doesn’t have to be perfect, but it needs to move you forward. That’s how you will become the best version of yourself.