Can you find your life’s purpose in today’s modern world or is it just a myth?
- What Seems to Be The Problem?
- Then and Now
- A Myth or Not?
- How to Find Your “Purpose”?
How often do you stumble upon the phrase “find your purpose in life”?
How many people do you know that have truly reached this stage of their existence? And one final question, are you one of these people?
There are so many things wrong with this saying in today’s world. And as much as we all want to believe it, not many people truly find their life’s purpose and live by it.
And I understand, it is truly inspiring when you hear someone say it. That is why we often see it in the movies we watch, where the protagonist almost always lives up to the expectations of the audience in the last minute and realizes their true calling. We also see it in books and hear it in songs.
It is everywhere.
And while it does sound nice and promising, giving us a sense of meaning in our lives, finding your purpose, especially in today’s society is more difficult than you could imagine.
Don’t get me wrong, I am all about finding a purpose in life. On many occasions, I’ve mentioned that I believe in this and explained precisely what I am striving for. But I am also a realist, and I know that unlike in books or movies, life does not always have a happy ending, nor a joyful beginning for that matter.
Our existence and everything we do throughout our whole life is immensely complex, and cannot be summed up by a quote. And as time goes by, we stray away further from the possibility to even find some sense of purpose in our life.
Have you ever wondered why?
What Seems to Be The Problem?
We live in a world where everyone is in an endless competition.
The fact that we have possibilities to upgrade that we’ve never previously had, has made an entire generation of overachievers that cannot find their meaning in life, simply because there is too much to choose from.
Social media has broadened the problem, by making everything public.
Your Facebook friends or the people who you follow on Instagram will post pictures of their accomplishments and they will paint a picture of their perfect life. In reality, this is far from the truth and you know it.
The life that goes on behind closed doors, and behind those pictures you see constantly, is the real one, and you have no idea what they might be going through.
Not everyone will agree with me on this one, but I believe that it is much more difficult for people to stay happy in today’s society, precisely because we have advanced in many aspects throughout the years. Also, because we choose to live a dishonest life only to make an impression on other people.
It is not entirely our fault that we end up living simulated lives with no purpose at all, but it is our choice. Don’t you think?
Then and Now
While on the matter, it is important to tackle this issue from another perspective.
Is this “life purpose” we are talking about a creation of the 21st century, or has it been around for a while but has lost its meaning throughout the years?
Every generation has its ups and downs, its positive moments and its hardships. But this generation and all the young people be it millennials or the generations that have come and will come after them, are really facing a problem when it comes to their purpose in life.
Hundreds of years ago, our lives were focused around surviving. People were led by instincts and had simpler goals. They knew how to adapt, and they also knew the huge importance behind it.
However, since then, we’ve evolved and changed.
Today an average person has many opportunities, but society has set up the bar so high that only a handful of people can live up to those expectations.
So what does this make the others who haven’t done it?
Are they failures?
Have they failed to pursue their life’s purpose?
I would say no to this.
Despite popular belief, that this has to be something grand, often a godly presence, or material things such as large bank account or a fancy job, finding your purpose in life, means finding happiness.
So what if your friends all have better-paid jobs than you? What if they drive nicer cars and have their lives “figured out”? They are not better than you, nor you are better than them. We are all unique individuals with different mindsets but one goal — to be happy.
So maybe that makes them happy, but it doesn’t mean that by leading the same life as them, you too will be content.
You don’t necessarily have to be better than others. It has nothing to do with purpose.
What you do need to be is content with yourself.
Maybe your purpose in life is having a job that does not make you miserable every morning when you wake up. Or maybe being surrounded with people you love and who love you.
Maybe your purpose in life is just being who you are, instead of who the world wants you to be.
It can be everything, as long as you are happy with your decision.
So, the question is — is finding your purpose in life a myth or not?
A Myth or Not?
People have divided opinions on this topic, and many times so have been I.
After much thought put into the issue and searching for answers my whole life, I understood that no matter what life brings me in the future, I would accept it as my destiny and seek the best out of it.
In other words, to me, this question does not need an answer, as there isn’t a one-fits-all type of solution.
I believe that in order to lead a good life, you need to be happy and that is what I am doing. Although it is impossible to remain happy all of the time, the point is to try and see the good things in life, no matter how small they sometimes are.
So no, your life purpose is not a myth, and no it does not have to mean something in particular or be something big.
It can be your child or your partner. It can be your job and aspirations. it can be anything that makes you happy.
It can sound like a cliche quote, but the true purpose in life is to seek happiness and do good.
Only then you will feel that bliss everyone is constantly talking about around you. You will feel like a lead role in your own movie and the main character of your book. And the best thing is that it will have a happy ending.
How to Find Your “Purpose”?
Finding a purpose in life when everything seems desperate is not easy. It’s also challenging to change your beliefs all of sudden and stop chasing impossible things.
But it’s a common misconception that you will be happy once you’ve found your purpose in life. As a matter of fact, it’s the complete opposite of that.
The moment you find happiness, you’ve also discovered your purpose in life.
So what’s the thing that makes you most happy? Bear in mind that you also need to stay kind and selfless if you want to truly feel good about yourself.
If this is too overwhelming for you, as it is supposed to be considering how big of a thing is, let me guide you through several things that might help you in your mission towards happiness and purpose.
First of all, ask yourself these few questions, and write down your answers.
What is/are the thing(s) that you are the best at?
What is the thing that’s easiest for you to do?
What is something that you enjoy most on a regular basis?
What has caused you the greatest joy in life and why?
Who is your favorite person to be around?
Can you combine at least two of these together?
I believe you get the point. I could include an endless list of questions, but it all falls down to one thing — your individual needs.
Give as many answers as you possibly can and don’t restrict yourself when you are answering these questions. Then, the final one will give you something that makes you happy. It can be an activity, a hobby, a profession, or it could be another person.
Also, you are not limited to only one alternative, as the more you discover about yourself, the happier you will be.
Don’t limit yourself to what society dictates to be the norm. Instead, explore your options and be a better person. Not because of others, but because you owe it to yourself.
Life has no happy endings as they show it on TV, as every ending is the same. But the scenario for the movie you live in is written by you. Make sure you write it as best as you possibly can.