Being lucky or hard-working — what’s the secret formula?
Success is something many people aspire to attain throughout their lifetimes. It’s a common goal, as we all want to achieve something in our lives.
In many aspects, we are all very different from one another, but success is something that, in a way, unites us. There is not a single person that does not want to succeed in something.
No matter what that might be.
No matter how big or small a goal is, finally reaching it brings an enormous amount of satisfaction and unquestionably pushes us forward.
Succeeding means that your hard work has finally paid off, and in a sense that brings joy and purpose in a person’s life. It brings a feeling of ease and self-appreciation.
Succeeding marks the end of an entire chapter of your life and is the starting point of another, better one.
Most people believe that you need to earn success, in one way or the other.
Success comes with hard work, determination, and the right mindset.
That’s one interpretation I find quite appealing and true.
However, what happens when after all that hard work you’ve put into something, there are no results? What does it mean when someone else is doing better than you with without all that effort you’ve put into your goals, even though you are doing everything “by the book”?
Many times I have wondered if success has nothing to do with the meaningful and inspiring words we often hear about it. Instead, what if success is just something that accidentally happens to someone? Maybe you need to be lucky, rather than hardworking, to succeed?
There are many examples throughout history, especially in today’s time that confirm this “theory”. People that became famous overnight, just because they did something in the right place and the right time.
So what seems to be the right approach to success, and should we keep trying to achieve our goals in a world where success sometimes comes quite accidentally?
What Is Success?
To answer the previous questions, we need to have a clear concept of what success actually means.
There is no one-fits-all definition that would grasp the significance behind “success” and “being successful. It’s all in the eye of the beholder. For some, it might mean one thing, and for others something completely different.
“Success is not what you have, but who you are” — Bo Bennet
“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value” — Albert Einstein
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” — Winston Churchill
“I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” — Estée Lauder
“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” — Tony Robbins
“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.” — Bill Gates
All of these prominent people throughout history had their own definition explaining success. Not all of them agreed on one consistent rule. As seen from the quotes above, not everyone considers success to be a good thing or something correlated with business or recognition.
It’s a common misconception nowadays, that being successful is closely tied with having a lot of money or having a name that everyone recognizes.
I believe that, in reality, success has nothing to do with this. Instead, I think that each and every one of us needs to find their true calling in life and follow it. What we do to achieve that is what success is all about.
For me, it could be having a sustainable business and making a difference in people’s lives. For someone else, success means prospering in their careers, raising a family or traveling the world. It could be anything. Success is getting up in the morning and dealing with the hardships life brings every single day.
So what does this tell you? And who says that you are not successful at what you are doing right now?
In conclusion, success is not a one-time thing and it should not be considered as such.
Success Is Not a One Time Thing
What happens when you reach your goal? You’ve tried to achieve something for so long and it’s finally happening.
Do you stop there?
What happens after your success?
What many people fail to realize is that life continues its course after obtaining your goal. You then transfer on something else. A bigger goal perhaps. It’s our constant need to have a purpose in our life. And we spend our whole life searching for it. In every success, and every milestone.
In other words, yes, you succeed. You got the job that you really wanted. Then you moved to a higher position. So, the next obvious step would be to set up another goal for yourself. No matter how big or small.
My point is, everything we do can be considered a success. However, as we grow up, these goals of ours become much more complex and hard to get. Sometimes, no matter what you do success just won’t come your way. No matter how hard you work, how motivated you are, and how much you try.
But it happens for many other people around you. So much that it makes you wonder whether you are doing something wrong, or maybe luck has something to do with it. You are asking yourself is success really all about hard work and determination, or is just something that happens accidentally?
My advice in this situation is to not let the success of others discourage you into following your own path. Stop comparing yourself, and put the focus on you solely. As long as you compare your life with others, you will never be successful and there will always be someone better than you.
Instead, be happy for others who managed to achieve the goals and use this as an inspiration that you can do the same as well.
The Formula for Success
In reality, there isn’t a formula for success. But there are things that will bring you closer to it.
First of all, you need to have the right attitude. You shouldn’t compare yourself or envy others, as that only moves you further away from ever succeeding in life. You need to be selfless and celebrate other people’s achievements. Keep your mind focused on winning, but be open to the possibility that that might not happen the way you expect it.
One of the most important things with striving to reach success is answering the question of whether your goals are realistic. Don't get ahead of yourself, and always work for something that you know you will achieve. Following some unrealistic goals about our life and the future is doomed to fail sooner or later.
No need to mention that you need to work both hard and smart, and to have the right amount of motivation as well as determination. Quitters will never become successful.
Finally, I would advise you to build up your mental strength and be ready for whatever obstacle might come your way. Life is not easy, and people don’t become successful overnight (at least in most). The key is to be patient and never give up on your dreams.
Bottom line, saying that success comes accidentally for some people is definitely true. Things like that happen in real life, but it is nothing you should be worried about or envy it.
You are your own person, and by no means should you compare yourself to others. You don’t know their story, but you are the writer of your own.
So take things into your hands and keep a clear focus on your goals. Even if it takes you more time, more dedication, and more work, success can happen for you too. In every sphere of your life.
Besides, remember, it is the journey that counts. Every inconvenience you run into is just a lesson that you need to learn that will bring you closer to your definition of success. The trick is to know exactly what you are aiming to.
What is your definition of success?