- Why Do We Fear Failure
- The Importance of Failure
- How to Recover from Failure?
For most people success is a positive thing, while failure is perceived as something entirely negative.
Often, failure encourages a fearful behavior in people. That brings them to a certain point where they don’t even try to achieve anything meaningful, driven by the fear of failing.
Obviously, succeeding is a positive thing. It’s what we all have in common. We all want to succeed in something.
All of us, try for so long to get to where we are at a certain point in life and reach our goals no matter what they are.
Once we get to that point we experience happiness.
It’s completely normal behavior to feel relieved, happy, and satisfied with yourself after all that hard work you put in to see good results.
Success, although it can be interpreted differently, is something most people strive to reach during their lifetime, in one way or the other. Therefore, we can all agree that succeeding in something can be a very rewarding and amazing feeling.
On the other hand, failure could mean the opposite of this, and for some people is an ending point of what they were initially trying to achieve.
So why failure is feared so much?
Why Do We Fear Failure?
There are many explanations that can be considered as the proper answer to this question. However, summed up, the answers point out to one major cause why we fear failure.
Failure hurts our ego.
People don’t want to get hurt, and we all suffer from this condition. Our ego is a part of us, one that can be more expressed in certain individuals. It would be ridiculous to say that you haven’t had your ego hurt at least once in your lifetime. That might be the root reason why you are now constantly afraid of something. It’s also the reason why we have such a misdirected perception of failure and what it might do to us.
“When the ego dies, the soul awakes.” — Mahatma Gandhi
Sometimes, the ego makes us vulnerable and dealing with failure seems like the worst thing that can happen to someone. It brings regret, humiliation, and shatters the self-confidence.
The more you worked for something, the bigger the pain will be the moment you fail.
It’s no surprise why people are so afraid of it. No one wants to be in pain, nor experience humiliation.
So if there is even a little chance of failure, some people are prepared to give up their dreams and goals, just to avoid feeling worthless and experience mental pain.
When you think about it, it a good enough reason to not try and achieve something that will lead you to your success. Pain can be a reasonable excuse to live fearfully for the rest of your life, instead of chasing opportunities that don’t guarantee a good outcome.
But is this really how you want to live for the rest of your life?
Think about it.
You can either live in fear and avoid challenges or you can try a different approach in your life. One where failure does not have such a negative meaning. A life where you learn from every mistake you make and rise up stronger than before after every failure.
The Importance of Failure
Don’t get me wrong when I say this, but failure can be, in many ways, good for us. It’s good to experience it, in order to learn a lesson.
If you happen to succeed in what you were doing, that would be more than amazing. It means you tried and your effort was worth it.
However, if you happen to fail, there is nothing to be sad about.
Every failure brings a portion of life experience. And you know how it goes, the more experience you accumulate in your life, the better you become at a certain thing. So next time failure crosses your mind, treat it as a lesson. A valuable one that can be of great importance for you.
Some of the best success stories started with failure and it’s not something to be ashamed of. The greatest inventions are based on countless failed attempts. In other words, if we all accepted this mindset, the world would be a much better place for yourself and others.
That is why I am not afraid to say that failure is important for each and every one of us.
It teaches us that life can be sometimes difficult, but with the right attitude nothing is impossible. It teaches us that failing is part of the journey, one with many obstacles on the way.
I have failed many times as well, but all of these failures have thought me how to be better the next time I try. They are not the end of your journey but represent a new opportunity.
However, in order to learn something, you need to have the right mindset. Fearing the worst and choosing not to act on your goals and dreams will never get you anywhere. It’s better to take one step back to take two steps ahead than to be stuck in the same place your entire life.
It’s through failure, that we learn some of the best lessons in life. We collect experience, learn the value of life, we accumulate knowledge. Failure also inspired growth and resilience.
So why fear it?
Nevertheless, failure is still not the most positive thing that you can experience. Only strong people can get up after failing, and it’s best to know how to react to this before it even happens.
So what should you do once you fail?
How to Recover from Failure?
Once you understand that failure is not your enemy, recovering from it does not have to pose such a serious problem.
However, its’ good to know a few things in case you find yourself in a situation where you have difficulties rising up again, and reached for success.
1. Create a Plan B
If you want to achieve something, but you don’t know whether it will succeed or fail, make sure you have a plan B that you’ll use in case the first one fails.
In your backup plan, you need to include all of your goals, and the best ways to get to them. The plan will serve as a reassurance that you will try again after failure, lowering the fear factor in the process. Plus it will serve as a confirmation of your long-term goals and inspire you to take action and start working towards reaching them.
2. Understand Failure
Before or after it happens, you need to recognize failure as something that most of us go through, if not all. You need to understand its potential value and exclude fear.
Next thing is to accept it as part of life, and don’t put yourself through hell for not achieving something. There might be a next chance, and if not, something better will come your way.
3. Lose the Ego
You are not better than others for not failing. As a matter of fact, that probably means you never even tried.
Also, if you get out of your comfort zone, start chasing your dreams, and fail somewhere along the way, that does not make you less successful than others. You just need to cross a few more obstacles and you will eventually reach the end of that particular journey.
As I said before, failure affects our ego and that’s the reason why we get those negative feelings. But once you lose your ego that will no longer be a problem.
4. Remove the Negativity in Your Life
You might be surrounded by people who will try to bring you down. They will discourage you in your intentions to try again. They will probably say “I told you so” and “You are better off this way”.
However, if you truly want something, don’t let other people’s negativity influence your life. Ignore the people who do not inspire you to be the best version of yourself.
Life is full of obstacles and no matter which path you will take, chances are that you will make a mistake along the way.
After all, we are all human and we’ve all been through that.
With the right mindset and the proper attitude in these kinds of situations, there is not an obstacle that you won’t be able to overcome.
So don’t despair when failure gets to you. Instead, embrace it, and try to learn a valuable lesson from that experience.
Success is wonderful and deserves to be acknowledged. Failure might not be that good, but it’s certainly not the worst thing that can happen to you. Remember that the next time you have presented an opportunity.
Don’t be afraid of failure, and go for it!