Stop with the Excuses — It’s Time to Make a Change

Bruno (HE) Mirchevski
Jun 16 · 8 min read

Don’t let your “later” become “never”.

People can be incredibly creative when it comes to thinking of excuses. We often used them to get out of situations that seem difficult and unpleasant, or something that is causing us fears and anxieties.

Sometimes we use excuses simply because we do not want to commit to something, or maybe because we are lazy and like to procrastinate instead of doing something. Each and every one of us has done it, in one way or the other, in every aspect of our lives.

You excuses can be different but they share one common trait — they are not welcome in your life.

Although they might be appropriate in certain moments of our lives, excuses are one of the worst things that you can do to yourself. Thus, they should be avoided by all means.

You make excuses when it comes to eating healthier, exercising, or getting that promotion you really want. Sometimes you make excuses to not be nice with the people around you. In other words, you use your excuses to rationalize your actions, even though they are many times wrong. You convince others of things that are not entirely true, but what’s even worse is that you try and do the same with yourself.

You need to understand that the more you use excuses, the harder it will be to get things done. They become your new reality, one where you are too afraid to try, or you are simply too lazy to do something.

The excuses we use are not always something that we intentionally do. Sometimes they get the best of us, and we are not even aware of the consequences.

That is when you know that you’ve crossed the line, and it’s time to make a change.

If you want to achieve happiness in your life, and feel good with yourself, you need to stop with the excuses and start doing things instead. No matter how difficult they might seem at the moment, some things need to be done before it’s too late.

The Reasons We Make up Excuses

There isn’t a single explanation to this, as we all lead different lives and are faced with different situations through it.

However, when summed up, the reasons behind our excuses can be categorized into a few categories, some of which are quite familiar to most of us.

Fear and Comfort Zone

One of the most common reasons for making excuses all the time is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure or making a mistake, fear of being exposed and vulnerable. Fear comes in many shapes and sizes. We’ve all been through this, and it’s a familiar term for most people. Intentionally or not, when we are afraid we tend to make up excuses instead of doing what causes that feeling in us.

After all, when you are faced with a situation where you need to face the unknown, and you feel anxious about it, we instinctively back off in order to feel comfortable again.

But the comfort zone does not bring you any good, so make sure that when an opportunity is ahead of you, you need to go and grab it before it’s too late.

If you won’t confront the things you are afraid of, you will be stuck in your comfort zone for the rest of your life, missing out on many beautiful things along the way. After all, some things are unavoidable, which means it’s best to accept them as they are than to constantly search for excuses to circumvent them. For example, the fear of failure, although it is completely rational, it’s something that might happen as failure is inevitable at some point in our lives. However, that does not necessarily mean that it needs to be considered as a bad thing.

Lack of Goals and/or Motivation

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What was your New Year’s resolution, and how far have you come with pursuing it?

What are your daily goals or your long-term aspirations?

Most people have at least one goal in their life.

To get healthier, get better at work, etc.

Some people, on the other hand, have none.

However, whether you have a goal or not, the thing that leads you through life and helps you achieve things instead of using up your excuses is motivation.

That and your determination.

When you start doing something, you need to have a clear goal. That goal has to bring you some kind of satisfaction upon reaching it, thus motivating you to walk the path towards it.

When you have the proper goals, make sure you find the proper motivation as well, because without these two, you will be stuck with your excuses and you won’t really achieve anything in your life.

Keep in mind, however, that both the goal and the motivation need to be realistic and measurable. Just having a goal without it being specific enough, is the same as not having one at all.

Procrastination and Laziness

Without a doubt, procrastination and laziness are one of the biggest contributors to coming up with an excuse not to do something.

This pattern of behavior can be seen in everyday life and it’s quite possibly something that we all have in common.

At least once in your lifetime, you’ve probably faced a situation where you just don’t want to do something. For example, you need to study for an exam but instead, you lay in bed or watch movies. You tell yourself that you will finish the task later, but that later somehow is postponed every time you think of getting the work done.

These two traits are some of the worst things that you can do to yourself, especially when you are younger. The more you procrastinate, the lower are your chances of getting the work done on time. Plus, they often come with the feeling of regret, panicking or self-pitying.

Comparison and Self-Doubt

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When you need to complete a task in your life, big or small, you can quite often be the ‘victim’ of comparison.

It’s normal that people don’t like to be compared to someone else because it’s certainly a bad feeling that brings us down.

Often, when you make up an excuse, the reason behind it is to avoid feeling underestimated or humiliated by others.

This is, of course, closely related to fear, but also it has a lot to do with self-doubt.

If you want to become a better person and change your bad habits, you need to learn to accept yourself and be comfortable with what you do. That way, no matter how much people compare you to others, you will always remain your confident self and lose the excuses for not doing the things you love.

How to Stop Making Excuses?

The first step towards improving your life and getting rid of the awful habit of making excuses all the time is by acknowledging that you are, in fact, doing this to yourself.

Once you are aware of this and you accept it as a negative influence over your life, then, it is time to make some changes.

Driven by the reasons why we make excuse, we need to find the proper ways to stop doing that.

Therefore, if you are stuck in your comfort zone, the reasonable step would be to try and get out of it. Of course, this is not as easy as it sounds, but it’s not impossible.

Let’s go over some things that you need to practice if you truly want to stop with the excuses.

#1. Embrace Fear and Failure

That’s something that is bound to happen sooner or later. So, instead of constantly being alert about it, make sure that when it happens you are ready to get up and try again.

#2. Don’t Overthink

It’s the first mistake that we do when we are confronted with a decision. Therefore, we tend to overthink things, until we give up and make an excuse instead. Take a risk and trust your gut feeling.

#3. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

You are your own person and you should embrace that. People can say whatever they want, but as long as you are content with yourself, you won’t be needing any excuses.

#4. Change Your Habits

Your habits dictate the course of your life. The better they are, the less you’ll be using excuses in your life. Once you start changing your life, you will see a massive difference and you will feel much better.

#5. Stay Realistic

To get rid of the excuses, you need to have goals. But, as I previously said, keep them realistic and attainable. Even small goals can bring you huge changes. The key is to keep trying and to not give up.

#6. Stop Blaming Others and Take Responsibility for Your Actions

It’s no one’s fault that things are not working the way you want them to. It’s your fault and the result of your own behavior. You need to accept this and take responsibility instead of dwelling in your own mistakes.

Don’t let your “later” become “never”, or your “maybe” to become a “no”.

The sooner you realize that you have the potential to make things right and lead a much better and fulfilled life, the better it will turn out for you.

Next time when you are faced with a situation where you are required to take action, whether it’s something small or life-changing, think of how much you can actually achieve and go for it. Do not rely on excuses to get you anywhere in life, because they won’t.

They are just keeping you away from your own happiness.

So why use them?

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