You Could Be The Winner Of Your Own Game

Bruno (HE) Mirchevski
Jul 1 · 7 min read

The game is called reality.


Games are made for winners.

They are created for people who won’t quit after a failure or a difficult obstacle, and those who will spend time and effort into becoming better at playing until they are good enough to win.

We grew up with all sorts of games, and they have been the main source of fun when we were children. Whether they were video games or something that we used to play when we gathered after school, they though us a great abundance of things. Because of them, we know that even though we are competing against each other, we still need to have fun in the process. We learned that to be the best you need to work hard, think smart, and keep on playing.

These games, depending on which one was your favorite, also though us how to be excellent team players or even team leaders, and how with time, your skillset keeps growing and upgrading just because you haven’t given up yet.

So what’s so different about life then?

If you think about it, life is pretty much the same. The only difference is that you realize this once you’ve grown up. It happens the moment when you start building a career, a family, and when you are suddenly faced with so many responsibilities that you need to learn how to handle everything if you want to win.

So if you learned how to be a winner when you were a child, what’s stopping you to be a winner of your own game called life right now?

Games vs. Reality

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If you were a gamer once, you will understand where I am getting at. Do you know how in that virtual life that you led for years, you pick a character, usually in some way representing you? The character already has some basic characteristics that make it different from the others, and it’s something that you cannot change, yet you can improve. You can add skills and grow the competencies through leveling up, etc. The ultimate goal is to make your character, therefore yourself, good enough so that you can win, or strong enough so that you and your team can be better in the game.

Now let’s look at it from another perspective — life.

You are born as a blank page of a book that needs to be written as best as possible. However, some of your main characteristics are already noted on the first page. For example, your imagination skills, or your language skills, they are determined up front, it’s something you are born with. Of course, it is up to you whether you will fully develop them or not further on in life. There are many other examples of skills we were born with, that may or may not determine what we do in life. However, the key is to upgrade these skills, to learn new ones, and to keep progressing.

Everything can be compared to a video game, even what you eat, the way you dress, the people that surround you. Every part of your life can be translated into a game and you just need to know how to see this and use it to your advantage in life.

The silver lining here is to recognize the opportunities in life and keep the gaming attitude, which is almost always a winning one.

You need to know what you are good at and upgrade it just like in a video game. Some things are not the best fit for us, and some are perfect. So, instead of wasting time in many failed attempts to become better at something that simply does not work for us, it’s best to focus on the important stuff, the ones that can get you to a victory.

How to Win the Game of Life?

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What if, let’s say, you compare your life to your favorite game when you were a child?

Are you winning in life right now?

What are your most treasured skills that have brought you to where you are?

How are you working on improving them?

What is your main goal and what are you expecting to get on the finish line?

Without a doubt, real life is much more difficult than a game. However, if you obtain the growth mindset that you had when you were a child, you will be playing the game of life in an easy mode. You will know what to do and what to avoid. You will understand that failure has nothing to do with being bad or incompetent. You will clearly see how failure can be helpful and that it only represents learning a lesson. You will see it as an inspiration that pushes you to be better the next time you try.

You will see every obstacle as an opportunity to increase your ‘level’, and your goals will bring you a certain satisfactory feeling.

What’s more important here, is that to win the game of life you need to adapt your character to the environment, to the other players around you, and as I mentioned before, you also need to learn how to have fun during the process.

There are so many factors included in “winning”, and by that, I mean achieving your goals. Think of it this way — every obstacle is a level in a game, and surpassing it successfully means finishing the level. Of course, this brings you to another more difficult one, but it also means you learned something along the way, and you also improved a lot before you got to where you are.

So what’s left now is for you to keep doing that, to keep growing and improving in every aspect of your life.

It’s how you win the game of life.

Here are some real-life tips, on how you can improve your experience and improve to that point in which you become the winner of your own destiny.

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#1. Set up a realistic goal.

Life can be compared to a game, but it’s not one. That means whatever you are trying to achieve in life, and no matter what your purpose is, the best way to achieve your goals is if they are real, to begin with. Start small, and build up from there. Maybe something that does not appear to be realistic now, will be after you grow in other areas of your life first.

#2. Form winning habits.

To be a winner, you need to think like a winner. That means you need to rethink your habits and exclude the bad ones from the good ones. In other words, make sure that you practice only positive attitudes that will help you grow, and get rid of the bad ones, for example, the excuses you give for not doing something, the laziness, and procrastination, or your self-loathing.

#3. Take risks.

Life is all about taking risks. Nothing good will come out of it if you don’t. No matter how scary that might look to you at the moment, know that once you get out of your comfort zone and start chasing your dreams, eventually you will reach them. But only if you are brave enough.

#4. Don’t quit after a failure.

As I already said, and have stated on many occasions, failure is not your enemy and it shouldn’t be perceived as something so negative. It’s not the best thing that can happen to you, that’s for sure. However, it’s also not the end of your game. You just need to start over and learn from the mistakes you made previously. Eventually, you will learn what to do and what not to do, and failure will be a thing of the past.

#5. Stay focused on your goals.

Focus is everything. When you are playing games, it is precisely the focus that helps you win the round. In real life, once you set up a goal, you need to keep your mind on that goal without letting it stray away. Maybe something will appear as a better opportunity for you, or you will forget why you were trying to achieve in the first place. However, by staying focused you will reach your goal faster, and you’ll be able to transfer to another one. Focusing on too many things at once is not the best idea, and the most likely outcome in this situation is to not get anywhere at all.

All in all, your life is your own, and you know the best way to play it right. As long as you don’t quit your goals, you are very likely to succeed in anything that you set your mind to.

Remember, no matter what you do, stay positive and don’t forget to enjoy the journey while it lasts. Everything else is secondary.

Become a winner, don’t forget to be a dreamer as well, and do everything that is in your hands to improve in this game called life.


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