LIFE LESSONS THAT SHOULD NEVER BE LEARNED

A Heart Unmoved: Why I Didn’t Cry When My Father Died

The lingering hardship of trying to forgive the unforgivable

Rodney Lacroix
The Memoirist
Published in
10 min readSep 4, 2024

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I did not mourn the death of my father, and decades later, I am still coming to terms with all of it.
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The judge’s gavel hit with a bang.

My father stood up as he was being handcuffed, now guilty of four counts of felonious sexual assault with a minor under the age of twelve, and glanced back at my mother and me. My mom, a small, frail woman, suddenly felt like a ton of bricks as her body slumped into mine.

As he was escorted from the courtroom and into the depths of a prison process that I’d only seen in movies, I looked down at my mom and thought, “Now what?”

We were alone.

Up until a week before the verdict, my father had maintained his innocence. He pleaded with us that there was no way he could do such monstrous things, let alone to a young relative from my mother’s side of the family.

Even as our extended families cut contact with us — a hell my mother would sadly endure for years later — he remained steadfast that this was all just a mistake.

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Rodney Lacroix
The Memoirist

Rodney Lacroix is a humorist, and author of several books, including “The Vasectomy Diaries” and “Romantic as Hell.” He has 4 kids and is super tired, you guys.