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How To Do Friends With Benefits The Lifelong Way
Reflections on a lifetime of happiness without the commitment.
Having a friend with benefits isn’t for the faint-hearted. It requires you to only be attached when spending time together, but detached from feelings about what they do on their own time.
It’s not for everyone, but it can work beautifully for some.
Nearly two decades ago, I met Paul. I was on vacation far away from home and found myself wandering through a street art display. Art isn’t really my thing but since I stumbled onto it I spent some time perusing the work of local artists.
That’s where I came across Paul. In hindsight, he was probably more busy admiring me than the artwork, because he zeroed in and approached pretty quickly.
Paul is a well spoken, laid back kind of man. The kind who can low key hit on you before you know it’s happening. That’s what drew me in — subtle confidence and a bit of mystery.
The two of us intuitively clicked at the art show which led us to dinner together the same evening. Being in his company seemed to flow like a calm river, we were captivated and it felt like we’d known each other for an eternity.
