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The Day After My Wife’s Cancer Diagnosis

14 April 2010 — the start of treatment

Alan AJ
The Memoirist
Published in
4 min readJun 11, 2023

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Purple pink and white flowers on a table indoors
Flowers at a cottage in Broad Haven, 2011. Author’s own photo

At last, it was morning.

It had been a short night of cold sweats punctuated by brief pockets of restless sleep. I felt dazed, hyperactive, and exhausted all at the same time.

The previous evening’s devastating news — that my wife had cancer — was yet to sink in.

I felt so helpless. I needed to be doing something to distract myself from an underlying sense of fear and dread.

Spreading the news

First thing in the morning, I emailed several people at work; perhaps I thought one of them possessed a magic cure.

A little later, I took my five-year-old son to school. We arrived three minutes late, which was very unusual for us. But it was far from being our usual sort of day.

I broke the news to the head teacher and classroom assistant. Then I dashed to the nursery with my four-year-old son.

Next, I returned home briefly. While there, I chatted with the elderly lady across the road for fifteen minutes.

I was not usually so talkative, but I felt compelled to share the news far and wide.

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Alan AJ
The Memoirist

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