Congratulations, You’re “Busy”
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I remember the 16-hour college days pretty well.
2–3 classes, 2 jobs, clubs, trips to the gym a few times a week and then partying on the weekends. Although I slept 6 hours a night, I thought I was doing pretty okay.
When my mom called me one Saturday, I picked up the phone in a hurry.
“Hey, sorry, I’m really busy today Mom”.
I froze for a minute. Was I missing something?
“We haven’t heard from you in 3 weeks.”
Oh god, again?
Over-extension is a badge of honor nowadays.
Our 60 hour work weeks might kill us, but as long as we can say we’re busy, productive humans, what does it matter? If we had free time, we’d only feel like lazy, depressed losers who are wasting their lives away.
Okay maybe that’s a little dramatic, but still.
I’m not sure if it’s corporatism, western cultures or a complete lack of self-awareness surrounding our health and well-being, but somehow we’ve un-learned who we are at our very core.
We all know that we need a few things to survive:
Yet I almost guarantee, if you’re reading this, you are not keeping up in one of these areas. You may have a thriving business or career, but if you don’t fuel up the car, you’ll get stuck on the road.
Running on fumes isn’t cool. It’s frustrating and, uh, dangerous.
We live in a culture of symptoms. Some big people have convinced us the solution is not to look inward, but outward. A society less interested in wellness and more focused on illness.
How else can we be prescribed the perfect manufactured, overpriced remedy to be hooked on for the next 47 years?
We’ve over-valued productivity and under-valued humanity.
It’s something left out of the conversation nowadays.
We’re told to hustle harder. Harder than anyone else. To outwork everyone around us. And while this may be true, hustling harder is just hustling dumber if you’re focused on the wrong things.
Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing.
— Thomas A. Edison
Obviously there is a common theme of sacrifice aligned with success.
We can’t have everything in-check before we pursue our dreams and passions. It would be silly to think otherwise, when there are countless success stories of those who came from nothing and worked their way to the top.
Despite what other people will tell you, there are plenty of people out there who take care of themselves, had their basic needs met and got where they wanted to go. You don’t have to suffer to accomplish things.
That’s not how life works.
We’re professional busy-bodies.
Busy holds no meaning if the work isn’t meaningful.
Sometimes I still have to remind myself that there is more to life than having a whole lot of things to do. And that’s hard because I’ve thrived on being a busy body since I was like, at least 7.
We like to say we are “hard workers”, especially in the business world.
We want people to know we are going to work hard.
I have a better question:
Are you moving with the tide of your soul?
Sometimes that day job you don’t love is necessary because it pushes you closer to the work your soul wants to do. After all, not all of us can pack up our cubicles and make our dreams come true right away.
The reason why most people who go for their dreams find themselves where they want to be, isn’t always because they get it. That dream — that spark, ignites a direction. A life more fulfilling than the one they walk away from.
So many instead of working harder, I have a better idea.
We work forward.
Instead of lagging behind, struggling with our own health and thrusting ourselves into our days unprepared, maybe it’s better to start moving with our souls instead of fighting against them.
Think about the time you’ve spent getting to where you are right now.
The sum of your past few years have brought you to this moment and when you take a moment to reflect on them, your present might not seem so random.
For many of us, we’re blessed to have years to look forward to.
Give yourself a gift of five minutes of contemplation in awe of everything you see around you. Go outside and turn your attention to the many miracles around you. This five-minute-a-day regimen of appreciation and gratitude will help you to focus your life in awe.
— Wayne Dyer
Years ahead to change the course of our lives and set up the building blocks for a future we not only live in, but thrive in.
I’m learning it’s a whole lot better to be working towards the life you want and not the artificial goals and manufactured accomplishments the world wants you to achieve.
If you start there, you won’t really be busy any more, you’ll just be on your way to an even better version of yourself.
Because I don’t really know if hustle harder works.
But I know time does.
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