Find Yourself and Be Yourself

“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” — Aristotle

If you’re not comfortable with who you are, you’ll inevitably end up trying to be someone else. Self-discovery is an ongoing process. If you haven't found yourself, keep trying. Find out what makes you come alive and pursue it. Remember, being weird is not necessarily better than “being normal.” All people are weird in their own ways, even if they do conform to society’s rules.

Don’t just be better, stay different!

There’s nothing more addictive or incredible in life than reinventing yourself and allow yourself to be different every day. — Thalia

Be yourself, everyone else is already taken! There is nothing wrong with being better. But you are different. Accept the fact that there is no one else like you. You are one in a billion. No two people are the same. And that’s a good thing. Every unique person adds to the our world. Unless you do nothing. But you have a choice. Choose yourself, embrace who you are and share yourself with the rest of us.

Make no mistake. The world is waiting for you. Waiting for you to stop asking for permission. To stop questioning yourself. Waiting to hear what you have to say. You are the only one who can push yourself that further to share who you are, even when you are not perfect!

Embrace being different

“You’re incredibly, absolutely, extremely, supremely, unbelievably different.” — Kami Garcia

Your weirdness is the source of your character and creative powers. Weird is who we are, the best parts, not perfect, not trying — just yourself.

Here is one of my favourite quotes of all time: A quote from a 1997 Apple TV advert, narrated by Steve Jobs:

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”

Forget your weaknesses…for now

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

In a study by Harvard Business Review, it was noted that while people remember criticism, awareness of faults doesn’t necessarily translate into better performance.

Chances are you are paying too much attention to negative information. Millions of people are worried and always thinking about how to get rid of their weaknesses.

What if you turn things around and focus on your strengths instead. The bitter truth is, you may never overcome your weaknesses but you could make significant changes to how you live and work if you focus on what you are good at. The key here is that you don’t have to change who you are; you have to become more of who you are.

Instead of worrying about what you are not good at and trying everything you can to be good at it, why not play to your strengths. You can’t be good at everything. Actually you could, but you cannot be great at anything. You don’t want that. You can be amazing at one thing. Your core competence can make all the difference in your life.

Follow your curiosity, find out what makes you come alive and create yourself in the process. Focus your energy on exploring the one thing that brings you the most satisfaction in life and if you can, make it your career. You don’t have to choose between “doing what you love” and making a good living. You can have both.

If you spend your time doing things you’re not good at, it’ll frustrate you and cause you to feel defeated and unsuccessful.

Einstein became the most celebrated scientist in the world because of his insane focus on the General Theory of Relativity. William Shakespeare wrote at least 154 love poems and 37 plays, including Hamlet, King Lear, Romeo and Juliet and Macbeth. He loved to write.

These people are better known for their unparalleled contribution in changing the course of the world and history. They made the most of their time when they discovered what they should be doing.

If the career you choose does not correspond with your deepest inclinations, you rarely find the fulfilment you crave.

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