How to Master and Control Your Emotions Based From Thirty-Plus Years of Brain Research

Kaye Ramos
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9 min readMar 13, 2018

I don’t know about you but maybe…

You’re someone who finds it difficult to bounce back after an unexpected event happens in your life. Maybe it’s a loss of a loved one, a job,a failure, or any issue you just didn’t perceive to happen.

Maybe you do not feel comfortable meeting new people or just the thought of it makes you anxious.

Maybe you are constantly labeled as insensitive, Debbie downer, hyperactive, or someone with lack of focus.

I really don’t know. What I do know is that all of us have some issues that we wish we can control to live the life we truly want.

Most of the time, these fall under the huge umbrella of emotions. Emotions play a huge part in our performance and productivity.

If your emotions are keeping you from achieving anything or getting in the way of your relationship, then it’s worthy to do a quick reflection and adjust necessarily.

As Oscar Wilde said in the book The Picture of Dorian Gray:

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”

What Does Thirty-Plus Years of Research Tell Us About Emotions

For years, cognitive psychologists thought that emotion disrupts cognitive function. But the thirty-plus years of research done by neuroscientist Richard Davidson showed a different conclusion. He performed several experiments, studies and kept redoing them as latest technology arise. He went on to discuss these findings in his book The Emotional Life of Your Brain.

Dr. Davidson found startling findings about emotions:

First: The circuitry of the emotional brain often overlaps with that of the rational, thinking brain.

Second: Each person has a unique emotional profile just as we have our own unique fingerprint.

Third: Our emotional style is the result of brain activity that is laid down in our early years by the genes we inherited from our parents and experiences…



Kaye Ramos

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