How To Successfully Achieve Your New Year’s Resolution
Formulate Empowering Questions
“The New Year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.” — Melody Beattie
Here we are at the end of another year, reflecting on the year that passed and looking forward to achieving your New Year’s resolutions.
Most self-help articles and books advocate creating New Year’s resolutions based on goals you want to achieve. I’d like to propose a new way of approaching your New Year’s resolutions.
Rather than pursuing physical goals, I suggest focusing on self-improvement as a goal. Now you might think: “How will self-improvement lead to fulfilling my goals?” Self-improvement allows you to achieve your goals, since it provides you with the tools and resources to achieve those goals.
Many people focus on goals without a clear purpose or vision. The aim of self-awareness is to realise and know oneself. In doing so, you are likely to choose goals which resonate with your deepest self.
It is futile pursuing goals that are not in alignment with your deepest desires. If the goals are achieved, an empty void emerges, a pointless victory if you will. This emptiness may be attributed to the goal not being aligned with the deepest self.
In the following paragraphs I will outline a roadmap for creating goals with personal development as the focal point. If you carry out these suggestions, you will achieve your goals easily than struggle with them.
The first step to create effective New Year’s resolutions is to formulate empowering questions. These questions stir the mind so you contemplate your deepest wants and desires. Without these desires, your goals or resolutions are empty vessels appearing in physical form.
“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.” — Abraham Lincoln
For self-examination, you’ll need a notepad and some quiet time alone. This process requires writing down your thoughts and ideas that first come to mind. Don’t be concerned with the right answers at this stage, this is about dumping thoughts onto paper.
The self-examination process is about posing questions to the subconscious mind to uncover your deepest desires.
The four questions are:
- “What do I really want?”
- “Why do I want this goal?”
- “Who will I become when I achieve this goal?”
- “Will the pursuit of this goal be fun and inspiring?”
Write the questions on your notepad, allowing room to observe thoughts that come to mind beneath. It is imperative you don’t spend too much time ruminating on the thoughts that arise. Move quickly noting any spontaneous thoughts that emerge.
Once you’ve completed the self-examination process, reflect on the answers you wrote. Reflection means sitting with them for a few days to see what arises. Self-examination awakens the subconscious mind like stirring water. You create ripples in the mind, allowing the creative force within to reveal itself.
These ripples are like small dots on a canvas — when viewed from afar, they come together to create your masterpiece. During self-examination you are viewing the mind’s canvas up close. By allowing time to pass, you allow the parts of the canvas to take form.
Define the Goal
“Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.”― Neil Gaiman
Once you’ve contemplated your answers, it’s now time to define your goals. You are one step closer to creating goals you are likely to achieve and enjoy pursuing.
Jot down goals you’d like to achieve this year. Be specific with the goals, such as: “Create more time for fun activities and enjoy a holiday vacation twice yearly to somewhere exotic.” Add a completion date.
I like to end my goal statements with the following wording: “In an easy and relaxed manner, in a healthy and positive way, in its own perfect time.” Being specific with your goal statements allows the mind to be clearly focused on its intent to achieve it.
The second part of defining the goal is called muscle testing — to determine if the goal is congruent with your deepest self. I suggest searching online for the term “kinesiology” to learn how to muscle test to create empowering statements. Muscle testing is an easy process that takes less than a minute to perform. Your body will give you immediate feedback whether the goal statements are true or false for you.
The purpose of this step is comparable to a radio frequency. Your aim is to tune into the correct frequency of your mind and its deepest desires. I suggest undertaking a basic understanding of kinesiology to decide whether your goal statements test true or false.
Review and Refine
“Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.”― Brad Paisley
Once you’ve created and written your goals, keep them somewhere accessible so you can review them regularly. I’ve observed that this process works well during the early part of the year yet becomes harder as the year progresses.
Motivational experts advise that in order to achieve your goals, you must review them twice daily and use visualisation. I don’t see this as practical given the complexity of daily life. My advice is to review them as often you feel compelled to do so, however frequency is paramount.
In following the steps outlined above, I’ve created New Year’s resolutions which have been powerful and aligned with my true desires. The goals are easy to achieve since they are a deeper expression of my inner being. Reviewing them often has been less of a chore and more of a stimulating process.
In summation, have fun mapping out your New Year’s resolutions. Don’t be too stringent with your goals. It is worthwhile to follow the method outlined above and not deviate from the method too much. In skipping any part, pursuing your goals may be akin to lighting a dimly lit candle rather than a strong flame.
I hope you have fun with this and create goals that are self-serving and empowering.
Remember the purpose of goal setting is to discover more about yourself and that is why personal development is fundamental for overall goal realisation.