Lead Through A Crisis By Acknowledging And Dropping The Blame
“It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion — something that has always been disputed by the most respected schools of thought.” — Alice Miller
Crazy, uncertain times in the world are times where our reptilian brain emerges.
If we’ve been in fight or flight mode before, now we really find ourselves on edge.
Today, and every day, during a crisis is an opportunity to rise above the storm.
Yes, there are always horrible things happening all over the world.
But how are things in your mind and the minds of those around you? How can you keep an inner peace that ripples out and puts out the fires of the outside world?
The current crisis is giving us each an opportunity to be leaders of peace. When it’s tempting to go into fight or flight mode, just breathe before you act or talk.
In Monday’s and Tuesday’s newsletters, we armed ourselves with “The Core Complaint” to begin to build a map towards letting go of past traumas. Now we can move on to the “The Core Descriptors.”
This is a practice to better see and feel those closest to us.
So when you think of the people closest to you — your parents, partner, boss, or friends…
Write out everything that describes who they were and are.
Now, the hard part…
Write out what you blame them for.
This always makes me cringe. For the longest time, I didn’t want to admit I was blaming them for anything. The truth is that it’s inevitable.
As a kid, this was a “habit” I thought I had trained myself out of. What I had really done was just repress my blame out of fear of speaking it out loud. Obviously not a long term strategy!
I had submerged this blame, and through this exercise my own writing became childlike, pulling me back to times and places where I should have spoken up and said “no” when all I did was nod. Forgiving ourselves for those moments is critical, but so is acknowledging what we wished we had said.
In a safe place, write out the blame with no guilt. Articulate and describe the blame and use all the adjectives and phrases you wish you had said or could say.
Now look at these and describe the core events behind each that led to those feelings.
While scary, making them conscious is the best thing to eventually move past them.
Once they’re conscious, forgiveness and rebuilding can begin.
Tomorrow… “The Core Sentence.”
– Chad Grills, Mission Founder and CEO
Evolution Through Storytelling
Today’s Mission Daily guest is a super friend of the Mission and all-around great human, John Underkoffler!
John is the CEO of Oblong Industries turned CTO of Glow through a recent reverse acquisition.
Maybe you’ve seen the UI, VR, and AR tech in Minority Report or Iron Man? That vision for the future of technology is thanks, in part, to John.
In this episode, Chad and John talk philosophy, collaboration, technology, and human teams, and discuss ideas about what comes after capitalism goes “epi” and evolves.
A great conversation and a great guest — you won’t want to miss this one!
A quick shout out to our friends at TriNet for making today’s episode possible! TriNet makes HR easier, from payroll to benefits to compliance. AND they offer full-service solutions tailored to your industry and your company, whether your team is 10 people or 1,000. Check out TriNet today at trinet.com.
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