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The Most Interesting Man (or Woman!) in the World

Let’s face it — we crave creativity. Whether it’s a painting we admire, writing that inspires or comedy that leaves us in stitches, we thrive and want to be a part of creative enthusiasm. We look for this energy in a lover, partner or friend. We’re hoping to find someone that’s intriguing, who sparks our creative imagination.

In fact, we hope we are a reflection of precisely what we seek in others.

Every one of us has different reasons for why we do, what we do, though often, it’s the unifying themes of purpose and leaving a lasting impact that resonate with people and matter. I think of my wife, whose goal is to help disadvantaged women and children that are victims of domestic violence. I think of my brother’s desire to help those as part of the Make-A-Wish foundation.

These are noble purposes! They go a long way toward defining who you are and how other perceive you. Are you interesting? Ah, that vague, shallow word, right? So, let’s use intriguing. What makes you intriguing and what makes you unique? I’ve found in most people that I work with, it’s often the parts of their process — the benevolent passion or cause that stokes the fire inside of them — which enables them to make a difference in the world.

It’s watching that process at work — observing an individual totally immerse their heart, mind and soul into doing work that is special and life changing. It’s purpose-driven, lofty yet also practical and it aims to serve others. If you’re only “in it” for yourself, others will spot that and be less likely to help you. And we all need help, through building relationships, inspiration and cooperation on our ascent up the mountain.

Here are four qualities that I have distilled from my observations in coaching, business and personal relationships that make an individual interesting, and and the object of either the public’s or an individual’s affection:

1. You have a “Why.”

A strong spirit transcends rules. — Prince

You have a purpose that transcends humanity and speaks to a desire to make a difference that may take a lifetime worth of work. But you’re OK with the time commitment and you possess the requisite patience. You know what matters most to you and you’re diligently working, at some point of each day, on how to get it. Everything circles back to your “Why.” Why does the work you’re doing matter?

2. You’re a creative, imaginative thinker of bold ideas

If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be” — Maya Angelou

Each day, you are in search of new ideas. Every time they pop into your head, you keep thinking about them. You influence these ideas with emotion and a critical mind to make sure they are worthy of supporting your “Why.”

Through all of your various interactions, you have identified the tools, technology, people and resources that will help you on your mission. Each day is a greater challenge for you to think more creatively and to inspire yourself to be even more creative than the day before.

3. You exhibit emotional intelligence

Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Quadrant; Courtesy of Emotional Intelligence 2.0

You’re self aware.You possess time-tested values that enable you to make sense of what you’re doing. You have self-control and discipline over the performance and management of your day, and how the results of your work impact the people and world around you. You work on developing others and living with empathy and love first. You’re authentic and original not because you try too hard, but because you’re naturally you.

4. Desire to love, persevere and make the most of any situation

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” — Napoleon Hill

As with anything in life worth pursuing or achieving, you have to want it. A great quote is this one from Eric Thomas, whose inspiring message has impacted millions of people:

“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.” — Eric Thomas

In order to make relationships truly work for the best, you have to want to love, empathize and make the other person a better person for having met you. You have to want it! “It” in this case is the best intentions and best results for the person you care about. The same can be applied to your cause or passion. You have to persevere and keep going each day.

I believe that once you do, you’ll find that you’ve eclipsed the man from the commercials. You will have gained the admiration and respect of others. Perhaps you may be the most interesting person in the world to someone or, if lucky, to many.

Live Boldly!

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Christopher D. Connors

Christopher D. Connors

Author, Executive Coach & Emotional Intelligence Speaker; Seen on Fox, ABC, CNBC, etc.; http://chrisdconnors.com

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