The One Behavior for a Successful Life
A 2-Minute Parable with Unlimited Wisdom.
In Before the Law, Franz Kafka shows us the critical behavior in leading a successful life. The lessons he gives us are as necessary now as they no doubt were a century ago.
Before the law sits a gatekeeper. To this gatekeeper comes a man from the country who asks to gain entry into the law. But the gatekeeper says that he cannot grant him entry at the moment. The man thinks about it and then asks if he will be allowed to come in later on. “It is possible,” says the gatekeeper, “but not now.”
At the moment the gate to the law stands open, as always, and the gatekeeper walks to the side, so the man bends over in order to see through the gate into the inside. When the gatekeeper notices that, he laughs and says: “If it tempts you so much, try it in spite of my prohibition. But take note: I am powerful. And I am only the most lowly gatekeeper. But from room to room stand gatekeepers, each more powerful than the other. I can’t endure even one glimpse of the third.”
The man from the country has not expected such difficulties: the law should always be accessible for everyone, he thinks, but as he now looks more closely at the gatekeeper in his fur coat, at his large pointed nose and his long, thin, black Tartar’s beard, he decides that it would be better to wait until he gets permission to go inside. The gatekeeper gives him a stool and allows him to sit down at the side in front of the gate.
There he sits for days and years. He makes many attempts to be let in, and he wears the gatekeeper out with his requests. The gatekeeper often interrogates him briefly, questioning him about his homeland and many other things, but they are indifferent questions, the kind great men put, and at the end he always tells him once more that he cannot let him inside yet. The man, who has equipped himself with many things for his journey, spends everything, no matter how valuable, to win over the gatekeeper. The latter takes it all but, as he does so, says, “I am taking this only so that you do not think you have failed to do anything.”
During the many years the man observes the gatekeeper almost continuously. He forgets the other gatekeepers, and this one seems to him the only obstacle for entry into the law. He curses the unlucky circumstance, in the first years thoughtlessly and out loud, later, as he grows old, he still mumbles to himself. He becomes childish and, since in the long years studying the gatekeeper he has come to know the fleas in his fur collar, he even asks the fleas to help him persuade the gatekeeper.
Finally his eyesight grows weak, and he does not know whether things are really darker around him or whether his eyes are merely deceiving him. But he recognizes now in the darkness an illumination which breaks inextinguishably out of the gateway to the law. Now he no longer has much time to live. Before his death he gathers in his head all his experiences of the entire time up into one question which he has not yet put to the gatekeeper. He waves to him, since he can no longer lift up his stiffening body.
The gatekeeper has to bend way down to him, for the great difference has changed things to the disadvantage of the man. “What do you still want to know, then?” asks the gatekeeper. “You are insatiable.”
“Everyone strives after the law,” says the man, “so how is that in these many years no one except me has requested entry?” The gatekeeper sees that the man is already dying and, in order to reach his diminishing sense of hearing, he shouts at him, “Here no one else can gain entry, since this entrance was assigned only to you. I’m going now to close it.
Action is Everything
Most people wait for great opportunities. They look for the easy solution or the guaranteed success.
But in the words of entrepreneur and startup investor Scott Belsky, “great opportunities never have ‘great opportunity’ in the subject line.”
Successful people don’t wait for permission. They see an opening with potential upside and push forward. They know that if you wait for the perfect opportunity, you’ll spend your life like the man from the country, perpetually waiting, watching from the outside.
New opportunities will always have a gatekeeper. There will always be some reason to hold back. Something that tells us why we can’t, or shouldn’t, or its better not to.
We’ve all seen this man. We’ve all been this man. We’ve all had times when we let hesitation get the better of us and we held back, waiting for permission that would never come.
It’s how we choose to respond in these moments that determines our success in life.
The top regret of the dying is they wish they’d had the courage to live their life to the potential they knew they could.
I get it. Stepping through is risky. It’s opening ourselves to the unknown. And we’re conditioned to fear the unknown.
But ask yourself: Are you more afraid of taking that risk, or living with the regret?
When you’ve come to the end, will you be content with the decision to play it safe? Will you value a life spent on the sidelines? Or will you look back and bitterly wish you’d had the courage to defy the gatekeeper and go through that door?
Because this door is only made for you. Don’t let it go unentered.
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