The Super Power Of Charisma — How You Can Adopt It For Yourself
There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.
His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.
Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.
That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.
What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:
1. Being confident baby!
This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.
We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!
My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:
– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye
Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.
“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”
It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it, chief.
2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!
Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.
This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.
There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.
Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles — find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.
3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.
This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media. He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social — he just eats it.
He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.
“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”
Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!
4. Expressing yourself through great stories
Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.
Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.
Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.
5. Make other people feel comfortable around you
Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.
Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.
6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.
Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.
To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.
You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.
Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.
7. They look approachable
Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!
That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.
The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing — smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!
8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return
This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.
Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.
Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!
“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins
So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:
– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day
Originally posted on Addicted2Success.com
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