The Type Of People You Should Always Avoid
BY MAX LUKOMINSKYI
Environment. Your success depends on it.
The role of people that surround you has often been underestimated. However, it proves to be a crucial element of your story of success.
The people, you spend your time with, make a profound impact on your productivity, motivation and the pace you approach new accomplishments with. The people who surround you can either make you or break you. Therefore, it’s important to choose wisely who to hang out with.
Needless to say that not all types of people fit the environment that can indeed foster your growth.
There are people who you should aspire to become friends with and let their positive energy, wisdom and inspiring identity help you become better than you ever thought possible.
Unfortunately, there are also people who you should do your best to avoid:
Ultracrepidarians.
If you are willing to get a valuable advice, avoid those who are giving it way too often. Period.
People love giving advice and sharing their opinion.
Unfortunately, only a tiny fraction of advice is indeed helpful. The majority is worthless and often appears detrimental.
The problem is that very often people advise you regarding the matters that are outside the area of their competence. They misguide you and make you doubt yourself.
After all, we all know the people who share their thoughts, opinions and, comments regarding the things they know nothing about.
The syndrome that embraces this behavior is called ultracrepidarianism.
Ultracrepidarianism is the habit of sharing an opinion or giving an advice on matters outside of one’s knowledge.
There are so-called know-it-all guys who possess no or too little expertise in a certain field, however, they don’t hesitate to criticize, advise and comment every time they have an opportunity to do so.
They firmly believe that their point of view is right and the most correct simply because they “know it all”. For some reason, they consider themselves huge specialists and gurus in all the spheres, while their knowledge is not enough to even maintain a decent conversation.
Such know-it-all guys never give an advice worth listening to. Moreover, their opinion lacks expertise and is seldom motivating and inspiring, but rather cheap and destructive.
Ultracrepidarians are likely to belittle your ambitions than make you believe in your strengths. They would rather destroy your dreams than make you feel energized more than ever before. They would rather give you an advice that is not worth a dime than provide you with the invaluable one.
Simply because they do not know anything about the things they talk about.
Ultracrepidarians — small people who are in charge of belittled ambitions and broken dreams.
Because quite often their advice is that misleading and wrong that it makes you either exaggerate the complexity of an issue or vice versa underestimate the potential challenges.
The desire to give an advice or criticize seems to be inherent in all human beings. And it does not really harm anyone as long as it is to the point and worth something.
Usually, constructive criticism and meaningful advice become a source of inspiration and eventually the basis for new changes, ambitions, and accomplishments. However quite regularly they can have an opposite impact and affect you the other way round.
You appear to be so concerned with people’s opinion that very often it becomes the main reason of your fears and blocker for new beginnings.
So many great ideas and thoughts were buried right away after being announced because of the disapproval or rejection of peers.
It happens due to the fact that people are so used to mediocrity that they feel embarrassed when someone thinks and acts out of the box.
It is especially the case when an idea pitched to them is absolutely non-standard and too ambitious. Therefore they are always ready to destroy it by silly criticism and poor arguments just in order to make you stay on the same level.
Beware of “gurus”, “professionals”, “experienced specialists”, and “I-know-it-all guys” who think they are experts and are always eager to share their “firm” opinion on almost everything, even if it is far beyond their expertise.
Be respective to justified criticism and reasonable words if they come from people that have a sort of experience and expertise. Meanwhile stop being bothered by opinions and advice from individuals who have no real knowledge in the field they speculate in, especially if their words are destructive and full of pessimism regarding your ideas and thoughts.
Make sure the person that gives you an advice indeed has enough credibility and robust expertise in a particular field.
Know who your adviser is and appreciate his opinion respectively. Filter out those who do not know a shit what he talks about and listen to those who can provide a genuinely valuable advice.
If you want to write a book, ask a writer for an input. If you want to start a business, ask an entrepreneur for a feedback on your idea. If you want to run a marathon, ask a person who has already run one how to get prepared for it. If you want to climb a mountain, ask a professional alpinist what equipment is the best.
Never take an advice from someone you would not want to switch places with. Do not let people misguide you with their words. Keep away from small people who always try to belittle your ambitions.
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