Just Let Go
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” — Buddha
We spend so much of our life forming attachments to things, people, places, thoughts and emotions that our lives become overburdened with trivial things that really do not matter.
Suffering stems from holding onto that which do not serve us — yet in a strange way, it seems comforting and familiar to hold onto these things for fear they will not be replaced or will be gone from our lives if we let go.
The truth of the matter is, the space will be filled when you make a conscious decision to let go of that which does not serve you.
Letting go of things that do not serve you is as simple as dropping the thoughts, the emotion or circumstance that takes up residency within you.
There is another way of looking at it, much like the toys you used to play with when you were a child. As an adult they no longer serve you the same way as they did when you are a child.
You might even call many of the attachments that you had toward certain aspects of your early life, which also have dropped away to make way for new things.
“When you are unattached, you have inner freedom. You have no investment in a particular outcome, and so you do what is necessary in the moment. You explore every option and are receptive to all new information. You do all that you know to do, and then trust, because you have no attachment to either the result or how the result is produced,” writes Charlene Belitz and Meg Lundstrom in The Power of Flow: Practical Ways to Transform Your Life with Meaningful Coincidence.
Life offers you the same lifeline by encouraging you to let go of anything which is taxing you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Take an inventory of your current circumstances and investigate those areas which cause you to be unhappy and unfulfilled.
They might be toxic or draining relationships. Invariably these relationships drain you and provide no personal growth for either party. Yet, we find evidence to substantiate the relationship in our life. These may include innumerable reasons, when at the essence of it all, we continue to suffer within.
Reflect on those relationships that draw energy away from you and leave you feeling empty and uninspired.
How will you know these relationships exist in your life?
One sure way is to look to your physiology and note how you feel on the occasions you meet with these people. Is there a sense of being unfulfilled that arises when you meet with such people?
Rather than immediately severing your ties with such people, you might slowly distance yourself from them by not accepting invitations to social gatherings.
Slowly over time you will find yourself in a happier place by attracting those people whom you wish to spend your time with. You must also become that, which you wish to attract. If you desire to have more love, honest and trustworthy connections in your life, then it stands to reason you must also become the embodiment of those qualities and values yourself.
Start Small and Create The Right Intentions
“No matter how much suffering you went through, you never wanted to let go of those memories.” ― Haruki Murakami
Friendships and connections can only be formed by like-minded individuals who vibrate on the same frequency. It does not matter that you have different personalities or interests. What matters is that you have the same outlook on life and value the integrity of close and fulfilling connections.
As you begin to pursue fulfilling and sustainable relationships, you will notice that you align yourself with things that really matter. You will become aware of things that are important as you allow room and space for them in your life.
You will be naturally drawn and inclined toward such circumstances since they provide you with a sense of joy, peace and fulfillment.
It is it similar to when you undertake a health and fitness regime where you no longer eat toxic foods, instead gravitating towards nutritious and healthy food choices. You might also undertake physical exercise during this period and become aware of how well you feel as you progress along your journey.
Letting go of things which do not serve you also brings you the same sense of satisfaction. You will notice the inner reward that comes to you when you are doing things which bring you happiness and joy, that you will no longer attract toxic or negative situations.
Jan Frazier states in The Freedom of Being: At Ease with What Is: “The idea is to not have to let go, later, of what has become a burden, but rather to not hold on in the first place. Not holding on doesn’t mean being at a forced distance from what’s happening, but being fully with it.”
This is also the case with your Health and Well-being program — your mind and body become attuned to higher states of wellness and they no longer require destructive or toxic habits to provide the same sense of fulfillment that they once did.
Resist the urge to obsess about insignificant circumstances, things or events which no longer serve you. The best way to step into your power and reclaim your sense of entitlement within the framework of the cosmos is to start small.
Make decisions which are within your comfort zone at first and watch the process unfold. The beauty of this is that as you begin to see evidence of life coming to your aid, you will naturally develop your belief muscle and in no time you will be making bigger decisions that are in harmony with your deepest desires.
An example of starting small might include creating an intention to let go of personal belongings that no longer serve you. A good place to start may be any personal belongings you have not used in the last three to six months.
Make a personal statement to yourself and the universe that you will be guided toward passing on these items to people or charities that are in need of these donations. Make a silent declaration to yourself and to the universe for guidance on how and when these items should be released.
Naturally, as you make this declaration the creative universal intelligence will guide you toward the right people that are in need of your items. You may feel a sudden impulse toward giving your items to a certain charity or alternatively an ad may appear in your letterbox advertising for second-hand items.
Whatever way the universe decides is best to re-purpose your belongings will be made known to you at the right time, when and if your intentions are correctly aligned with the gift of giving.
“Time doesn’t heal emotional pain, you need to learn how to let go.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
The universe operates in mysterious ways that are unbeknownst to our mortal minds. We tend to think in linear patterns and in doing so, disallow a great deal of the mystery and synchronicities to eventuate.
The universe specializes in the unknown and operates on a multidimensional level. This means that circumstances and events will transpire, not according to your own timeframe.
Be open and receptive to the unknown by creating a space in your life for these occurrences. Besides, who wants to live a boring and dull life?
I often hear people talking about how boring and mundane their lives have become as all they seem to be doing is carrying out the same tasks from day to day. Many of these same people, when prompted do not believe in mysteries and synchronicities and so miss out on the infinite possibilities that are available to them at the moment they relinquish and surrender the notion of how life should unfold.
When you live life from this perspective, you begin to see each situation as a mystery and with synchronicity. Rather than becoming attached to your own agenda, that governs the timing of how things should play out in your life; you come from a place of allowing which is seeded in infinite possibilities.
Life does not know what it will become until it reveals itself.
There are a number of possibilities for events and circumstances to unfold and they can only do so once we detach both mentally and emotionally from the situation. Instead, if you surrender control by allowing yourself to be grateful for whatever shows up in your life, you will find joy, peace and fulfillment in everything that you co-create with universal energy.
“The less you hold, the more your hands are open to what’s here, unexpected, transformative. In every moment is the possibility for a new discovery, a radical undoing,” explains Jan Frazier.
The challenge for many people is learning to detach from this essence of how life should unfold. Many find it challenging and almost impossible to believe that something greater than us actually knows what is best for you.
This limited way of thinking prevents you from mastering the real lessons of life, one of which is detachment.
Detachment does not mean apathy, in fact quite the opposite. Detachment implies that we handover the process of life to a greater force that knows best on how to attend to our needs and wants.
We stand in a place of firm understanding and knowledge that everything we truly want and need will be delivered to us once we surrender control and allow our egoic nature to stand idle.