Tired of Mediocre? Design and Achieve Your Ideal Lifestyle With This Simple Tweak
What you habitually think determines your reality and future
“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” -Marcus Aurelius
A world-class lifestyle is the byproduct of world-class choices.
World-class choices are a natural result of world-class thinking. In the words of James Allen, “As a man thinketh, so he is. As he continues to think, so he remains.”
You are what you think you are. If you think world-class, expect world-class results.
Similarly, an average lifestyle is the byproduct of average, mediocre choices. These choices are often the result of poor thinking, emotional blockages, and negative routines (all of which can be changed, by the way).
If you think small, you’ll receive small (or even nothing at all).
Entrepreneur Darren Hardy once remarked, “You cannot hang around negative people and expect to live a positive life.” Negative thoughts are the same way — they choke out your ability to live your ideal life.
Most people habitually think average, subpar thoughts. Rarely does a person consciously and consistently engage in positive, uplifting thoughts.
But this is exactly how the world’s most successful people operate. And it’s not just praising yourself in front of the mirror or chanting some mantra. This is a powerful mindset shift that results in incredible mental focus, energy, and purposeful direction.
What you habitually think about determines your reality and future.
If you want to achieve your ideal lifestyle, you need to start with fixing the source — your thoughts.
“What you habitually think largely determines what you will ultimately become.” -Bruce Lee
You Attract Into Your Life What You Think
“We do not attract what we want, but what we are.” -James Allen
You will only attract the things that reflect who you are.
What you focus on, magnifies.
Back in college when I was still single, I keenly remember how badly I wanted a girlfriend.
One of my mentors gave me some advice that changed my entire perspective. He said if I wanted to find a girlfriend, I should focus solely on “running as fast as I could,” so to speak.
He meant if I wanted to land a truly amazing woman, I needed to become a truly amazing man.
By becoming the best version of myself as possible (“running as fast as I could”), I would eventually attract people just like me — focused, diligent, self-confidence, and healthy. If I wanted a girl with those traits, I needed those traits first.
Before, I was an emotional mess. I was addicted to pornography, I lugged around intense emotional baggage, and frankly, I was looking for someone to take care of me. If I didn’t change, I would end up with someone as unhealthy as I was!
So, I shifted my focus towards being something more. I worked to gain the traits of someone I’d want to date.
Shortly after, I met an incredibly beautiful, strong, emotionally healthy woman named Kimi. Today, marriage with her is better than I ever thought marriage could be.
If you want your ideal circumstances — in career, relationships, finances, health, whatever — focus on running as fast as you can.
Make progress your most important priority.
You attract into your life what you think. If you never address your emotional baggage, it will hinder every part of your life — and your future.
If you consistently think subpar thoughts, don’t be surprised when all of your life seems subpar.
Said Arthur Golden:
“We can never flee the misery that is within us.”
But if you consistently think positive, forward-thinking, high-quality thoughts…
Don’t be surprised when money, success, and high-powered relationships gravitate toward you like a magnet.
“Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.” -Hal Elrod
Reactionary Thinking is the Foundation for Unhappiness
“Many people think in terms of, ‘I have to do what my colleague/neighbor/family member is doing’ instead of ‘I have to do what’s best for me.’” -Grant Cardone
Most people live reactionary lives.
Within seconds of waking up, they are reacting to whatever notifications are on their smartphone. Most people have a dozen “pressing” emails and messages buzzing through their heads before breakfast. The news and social media dictates how they should feel today.
Their lives are designed around what everyone else is doing.
This reality usually happens when you have not committed to living an intentional life based on your own deepest desires and dreams. If you don’t control your environment, it will control you.
The more indecisive and unsure you are about your direction, the more you’ll be prone to depression, comparing, and self-doubt. But the more clear you are with your goals, the easier it is to say no to unimportant things.
Reactionary thinking is the foundation for unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and emptiness.
Said Steven Pressfield:
“An individual is free only to the extent of his own self-mastery. Those who will not govern themselves are condemned to find masters to govern over them.”
- Whose thinking are you modeling — your best self’s? Or someone else’s?
- How clear are you on your long-term goals?
- To what extent are you reactionary instead of intentional?
Your level of self-mastery determines how much success you’ll achieve. If you constantly allow others to dictate your thoughts, feelings, and circumstances, you’ll never achieve your ideal lifestyle of freedom and growth.
Stop reacting and start designing.
“People who choose what they really want, and avoid temptations and get over the pains that drive away from what they really want are much more likely to have successful lives.” -Ray Dalio
Garbage In, Garbage Out
“If your lifestyle does not add to your healing, it will subtract from it.” -Benjamin Foley
I don’t have the exact numbers for how many people look at porn, binge on TV, and numb out on drugs/alcohol every day.
But I bet those numbers are pretty high.
You produce what you absorb. If you fill your head with garbage, you can’t expect to produce pure, uplifting results.
I once heard someone in a 12-step program tell me, “You can’t transmit something you haven’t got.” You can’t achieve higher levels of thinking if you constantly fill your mind with toxic garbage. That’ll only clog the engine and produce smog.
Fortunately, cleaning a cup full of dirty water is easy — just pour in clean water until the dirt is washed out.
If you’ve had a steady diet of garbage, it’s time to change your input. Once your input is filled with high-quality fuel, you can expect high-quality results.
“When a man makes his thoughts pure, he no longer desires impure food.” -James Allen
The moment you begin filling your mind with positive, uplifting, growth-oriented content is the moment you begin evolving into a better version of yourself.
Positive input creates momentum. Your thoughts become slightly more optimistic, which translates into slightly better choices. Better choices reveal the right paths to take. This creates excitement and fulfillment, which spreads to every part of your life.
And so on.
The same momentum builds the opposite way, by the way. Continuous consumption of garbage dims your eyes and dulls your mind. Opportunities seems to be fewer. The problems of the world seem bigger and worse, leaving you feeling smaller and sadder.
Every day, you build momentum…
The type of momentum you build is entirely up to you.
“If you keep on living the way you are now, you will continue to produce the same life you already have.” -Jim Rohn
How to Design Your Ideal Future in Simple 4 Steps
“Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon…must come to pass!” -Paul Meyer
You can draw the blueprint for your ideal life immediately using these 4 steps.
1. Vividly Imagine
First, you must begin vividly imaging your ideal lifestyle. Be extremely specific. The more specific you are, the more real the idea becomes — and the more your mind begins to believe.
David Schwartz discusses the power of your subconscious belief extensively in his book, The Magic of Thinking Big. “Belief, strong belief, triggers the mind to figure out ways and means how.”
But he goes on. “Disbelief is negative power. When the mind disbelieves or doubts, the mind attracts ‘reasons’ to support the disbelief.”
Belief is power, and it goes both ways. Vividly imagining creates and attracts belief.
2. Ardently Desire
Consistently thinking positive, powerful thoughts often requires a personal evolution first.
But evolving is hard. Ardent desire catalyzes faster evolutions.
Recently, I’ve committed to waking up early every morning to write and work. This morning I was exhausted (4 cups of coffee weren’t even helping), and all I wanted to do was crawl back in bed.
But I really want to become more — namely, to be a great writer and earn a living so that my wife and I can travel the world, whenever we want. I clung to that thought as I fought off the tenacious desire to get back under the covers.
Sometimes (like this morning for me), our ardent desire is our biggest weapon against regression.
3. Sincerely Believe
“When you believe I-can-do-it, the how-to-do-it develops.” -David Schwartz
6 months ago, I had a total of 300 email subscribers. It’s all I had to show for over 4 years of blogging!
But I decided to start taking myself and my work seriously. I began to sincerely believe I could become one of the greatest writers on the Internet.
This belief manifested in my actions, decisions, and thoughts. If I’m going to be the best, the best means behaving a certain way, right? So I bought a $500 writing course. I signed up for $250/month software for my new online course. I began writing consistently, and learning better techniques.
One of my new goals is to get 100,000 total subscribers in a 6-month period.
It’s been two months, and the power of sincere belief is working. The first month, I had 3,000 new subscribers. This past month, I’ve gotten 6,000. Next month, I want to break 10,000+.
This is crazy!
This belief is crazy. But as Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote, “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” The more sincerely I believe this goal, the more real the victory becomes.
You will receive what you believe you will receive.
4. Enthusiastically Act
On the topic of behavioral and mindset change, author C.S. Lewis once wrote:
“Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.”
Most people don’t act like they’re a winner in large part because they don’t feel like a winner.
But they have it backwards. First, you must act. Then, feelings follow.
Iconic NFL coach Bill Walsh once said, “Winners act like winners before they become winners. That’s how they become winners.”
Acting creates momentum. In the words of Tony Robbins, “motion creates emotion.”
Enthusiastically and consistently acting makes a powerful statement to the part of you that says, “I can’t do it.” Consistent action kills doubt and fear.
“We are what we repeatedly do.” -Aristotle
Most people habitually think largely negative, average thoughts. As a result, their lifestyle is average. Their circumstances aren’t that great.
The quality of their lifestyles is, frankly, mediocre.
If you want to achieve your ideal lifestyle — owning your own business, never having to work again, getting incredibly buff, writing a book, whatever — it’s time to flip the script. It starts with changing your thinking.
Your thoughts are the foundation for any action, choice, or behavior you have. If you think big thoughts, you can expect big results.
Most people haven’t taken the time to consciously diagnose their negative thought patterns. They continue to live quiet lives in subpar circumstances, wondering why nothing ever changes.
Change starts with you, and more specifically, your thoughts.
You attract into your life what you think. Your input determines your output.
If you want to live a world-class lifestyle, you need to make world-class choices. Those choices start with upgrading the quality of your thoughts.
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