Want To Stay Married? Then Go To Bed Angry…

Ryan Deiss
Aug 24, 2015 · 2 min read

There is no better way for a couple to show their commitment to one another than to go to bed angry.

Sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it?

In fact, the most common piece of advice most couples hear during wedding day toasts are, “NEVER go to bed angry…”

Well I say “GO TO SLEEP.”

Going to bed angry says something very profound about your relationship.

It says…

“Yes, I’m angry with you right now, but I’m also sleepy. So I’m going to bed. And you know what? Tomorrow, I’ll still be here so we can talk about it more then. And if we still haven’t sorted it out by then, we’ll go to bed, wake up and try again the next day. Because we LITERALLY have the rest of our lives to sort this stuff out…”

In other words, when you choose to go to bed angry, you’re saying that you aren’t going anywhere. No matter what.

You’re saying that you actually meant that whole “till death do us part” stuff when you said it in front of all your friends and family.

You’re saying that sometimes in life there will be problems that are too big to solve in one night, and that’s ok…

…that’s what true commitment looks like.


P.S. Here’s another piece of advice for couples:

Fight naked.

Yep, I said fight naked. Seriously, as an argument unfolds, just start stripping. Feel free to do it even while you’re yelling at the top of your lungs.

When you’re young and attractive, there’s a tendency for all that negative energy to be shifted into more positive and productive places.

When you’re old and saggy, you’ll be laughing too hard to fight.

So whether you’re laughing or you’re…well…you know…I’d say it’s a massive improvement over fighting.


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Husband to Emily. Father to Jonathan, Joyce, Ruth and Timothy. I also talk about online marketing stuff at: DigitalMarketer.com


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