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You’re a Failure, I’m a Failure, Mothers are Failures Because We Focus on the Wrong Things
Let’s just take a second to appreciate our achievements.
Lately, I have been struggling. Struggling with exhaustion. Struggling feeling overwhelmed. Struggling with mom guilt.
When I had the opportunity to talk to someone about how I’ve been feeling, there was no shortage of content in areas where I feel like I am failing. “You are dealing with a lot, however, you still have two happy and healthy children,” she said, “what are some of the things you are doing well?” We sat there in silence.
Why is it so hard to recognize our victories and so easy to dwell on our losses?
It wasn’t that I felt uncomfortable openly praising myself, it was quite literally that nothing came to mind. But she was right. I have two daughters who are happy and kind and smart and loving. There must be many things that I am doing well to make this happen.
So, I’m going to do my best to recognize them and pat myself on the back because I am succeeding at one of the hardest, most thankless jobs out there; motherhood.
The top 10 things I feel I’m doing well as a mother:
- My children know they…