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You’re a Failure, I’m a Failure, Mothers are Failures Because We Focus on the Wrong Things

Let’s just take a second to appreciate our achievements.

4 min readJun 27, 2021

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A woman in her undergarments kneeling beside a bed, rests her head on the mattress in defeat.
Photo by Sydney Sims on Unsplash

Lately, I have been struggling. Struggling with exhaustion. Struggling feeling overwhelmed. Struggling with mom guilt.

When I had the opportunity to talk to someone about how I’ve been feeling, there was no shortage of content in areas where I feel like I am failing. “You are dealing with a lot, however, you still have two happy and healthy children,” she said, “what are some of the things you are doing well?” We sat there in silence.

Why is it so hard to recognize our victories and so easy to dwell on our losses?

It wasn’t that I felt uncomfortable openly praising myself, it was quite literally that nothing came to mind. But she was right. I have two daughters who are happy and kind and smart and loving. There must be many things that I am doing well to make this happen.

So, I’m going to do my best to recognize them and pat myself on the back because I am succeeding at one of the hardest, most thankless jobs out there; motherhood.

The top 10 things I feel I’m doing well as a mother:

  1. My children know they…

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From dreaming of children to empty nesting, this is a place for mothers to share the load. Here you will find content that is valuable for mothers of all ages and experience levels. We are setting out to be the motherload of motherhood information.

Erin Hendriksen
Erin Hendriksen

Written by Erin Hendriksen

Editor of The Motherload. Top Writer in Parenting. Her BSc. and RRT designations led to a fulfilling NICU career prior to becoming a mother.

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