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An Abortion Saved My Life in Cambodia

The knowledge of imminent death terrified me

Debra G. Harman
The Narrative Arc
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8 min readNov 5, 2024

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The pain was so bad I bent at the waist, gripping the table. At the front of the room, I told my students, “You are excused. I’m sorry, I’m very sick. I need to leave now.” The Cambodian staff of Hotel InterCon looked worried. Unbeknownst to me, the ectopic pregnancy in my left fallopian tube was killing me. I was in serious medical trouble and without fast care, I would die.

While I usually rode moto taxis in Phnom Penh, the hotel got me a taxi. Once at my city apartment in Phnom Penh, I crawled up the spiral staircase. I lay on the cold tile floor and phoned Dr. Scott, my British doctor. He heard the terror in my voice.

Was I dying? Something was terribly wrong.

My face was chalky white and I was cold and weak. My lower abdomen felt paralyzed with pain. No physical position was comfortable. Polly, my friend, came into the room. I lay on my back staring at the ceiling. She gasped, “What’s wrong?”

“I don’t know, I don’t know,” I said.

My husband slept. As publishers, we kept odd hours. My work was done selling ads and writing copy, and he formatted our new magazine. Awake until 2 a.m., he needed sleep. I wasn’t thinking as I…

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Debra G. Harman
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