THE NARRATIVE ARC

Even In Prison Helping Others Helps Me Heal Myself

Teaching others helps me on my own path

Damian Delune
The Narrative Arc
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5 min readNov 19, 2024

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“When you don’t acknowledge your own vulnerability you work your shit out on others. Stop working your shit out on other people.” — Brene Brown

When I was in the outside world, I would overthink everything when I had too much time on my hands. It was easier to blame my upbringing rather than look internally and see what I could change about myself to correct whatever was going on in my life. Why consider changing things about me, when I could just chalk it up to a fucked up childhood?

Don’t get me wrong, my traumatic upbringing had a lot to do with why I made some of the choices I did. However, that didn’t give me an excuse for behaving in the manner I did. The saying “hurt people hurt people” exists for a reason, and sadly, I hurt a lot of folks, more often than not my wife, who damn sure didn’t deserve it.

I’m thankful she decided I was worth waiting for to get my shit together. Not that I was going anywhere (other than prison I guess) but waiting for in terms of growing the fuck up and learning to take ownership of my bullshit and accountability for my actions.

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Damian Delune
Damian Delune

Written by Damian Delune

Incarcerated writer sharing real stories about life on the inside, through my wife, Demeter Delune (editor, publisher, promoter, responder)

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