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How The Karate Kid Helped Me to Start Healing My Mother Wound
This was the kick I needed
I recently unearthed my Mother Wound after having a spiritual awakening.
Discovering your mother wound isn’t like a fun Easter egg hunt where you find brightly, colored plastic eggs sitting in plain sight in an open field waiting to be snatched up. When the eggs are opened, money, coins, or candy spill out and everyone is happy.
Nope, it’s more like a journey to the center of the Earth with the stench of rotten eggs.
Understanding the mother wound involves understanding that mothers and daughters are situated in and influenced by a patriarchal society that is oppressive to women. The mother wound is the cultural trauma that is carried by a mother — along with any dysfunctional coping mechanisms that have been used to process that pain — and inherited by her children (with daughters generally bearing the brunt of this burden). If the wound is not healed, negative perceptions, choices and parenting styles can be passed down through the matrilineal line — causing new pain with each generation. Think of mothers always putting themselves last, diminishing their own needs to serve others or constantly battling to construct a facade of perfection (perfect spouse, perfect mother, perfect woman within society).
