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My Love-Hate Relationship With Routines
Appreciating the moments that will never come again will be the next transformative change
At social events and parties, especially when I was younger, I used to stay a long time or leave around the same time as everyone else, and really live in the moment to develop close bonds and relationships with my friends. In the most recent work happy hours or parties I’ve been to, however, I have been one of the first to leave. Sometimes, my friends will stay at the restaurant or party hours after I do, and I feel like I sometimes leave rudely early
Other people I work with have good excuses: their kids. However, my only excuse is that I have to do more work. Sometimes, my friends will stay at the restaurant or party hours after I do. I need to go home and do more readings as a law student or long-term projects at work. I might need to go on a run if I hadn’t done so during the day. I have to run every day, or at least every other day. I also need to get a certain amount of work done or else I feel like I’ll lose my rhythm. The other day, my wife and I were the first to leave a family friend’s holiday party we were invited to because we had to finish some work at school. We have canceled or postponed trips to see friends or go out of town by sheer virtue of being too busy.
