letting go or letting through?

One thing is for sure, I’m tired of the world sharing engrained and indoctrinated ideas that are no longer serving us. Religions have pushed so many incorrect ideas and likewise so has the New Age industry, no matter how well-intentioned they all are. I’ve spent the last twenty-five years looking for the truth and finally feel I’ve found it. A bug-bear of mine is about the idea of ‘Letting go’, many teach us as a way to release our stresses and equally to allow in the future that is supposed to be our destiny. So, where do I start to unpack this myth….?
‘Letting go’ as a concept to stop sweating the small stuff is a fairly sensible way of being. The small things really don’t matter in the scheme of things and many of us humans can turn these little things into giant mountains if we are not self-aware. I recall the days when I lost my cool over the fact my ex kept leaving the bathmat in the ‘wrong’ spot. I mistakenly assumed he was the kind of person who would collaborate and do what he said he would, which fuelled the situation and is really a symptom of a bigger issue. Ultimately that mat could have been donated to charity or thrown in the bin and we’d have been done with the arguments. It really didn’t matter in the scheme of things. My more mature self sees that it was one of those things I could have ‘let go’ in hindsight.
‘Letting go’ of the idea of the specific kind of future and results you want is also good advice, as our greater self and greater spiritual network may have even better and bigger plans for us. We may be limiting ourselves and playing small by holding on to specific outcomes. I know I lived very much as a self-driven materialist who thought I could have whatever I wanted if I just did the right actions and worked hard enough. Nope. Sometimes there really is a bigger plan for you and letting it unfold is what needs to be done. Enjoying the moment and taking one step at a time is the key remedy for that problem behaviour.
Letting go in the context of ‘God’s Will’ is a mindset that a lot of committed religious people are stuck on. In some ways this helps people be less fixed on outcomes and allow in other possibilities, but at the same time it can create a lack of inertia to move forward in life or take more control of our growth and results. Those who palm off responsibility to their unseen bearded and grey haired old man sitting in a chair in the clouds dictating and judging humanity down here are often the ones stuck and not growing spiritually. We are not meant to be puppets to our circumstances or to some higher will but we are here to grow, learn and experience. The sweet spot is in co-creation or a position of alchemy where we work hand in hand with spirit to make the inspired steps forward for our growth as a spiritual being.
When it comes to bigger issues, that could even be described as traumatic, then the process of letting go ends up being a type of self denial or a bypassing of the real issues that will ultimately get stuck in our body and create sickness and limit our spiritual growth. I would say that my avoidance of traumatic emotions in the moment created Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and likewise the talking therapy afterwards further embedded it in my physical body despite well mean psychologists. Letting go, in this instance, is unhealthy and avoidant. Letting ourselves experience the emotions in the moment is not encouraged in society as we see our vulnerabilities as weakness. Many of us think that feeling intense emotions isn’t fun, even for the most self-developed.
We often fear these emotions as being insurmountable or all consuming. In my experience I’ve learned that the fear of fear is worse than the fear itself! Likewise the fear of pain being intolerable is worse than the pain itself when you truly surrender to experiencing it and allow it to run through your body. I’ve learned there is a threshold for all of these unwanted experiences and things can’t get worse than the fearful place we get to when we fear these difficult experiences. Once these fears or emotions are allowed through us it seems to release and diminish them. The same inbuilt cleansing system is here for us for our unwanted emotions and fears. Our human self, as a total spiritual entity, is designed to operate with an inbuilt healing system, but we are mostly shut out from it.
Letting emotions move through our body and facing them head on is challenging and takes some mental tenacity in the moment when our engrained societal behaviour is to avoid or let it slide. We are also taught that these emotions are ‘bad’ or shameful in some way. We deny each of us the right to feel what we feel. In my own family I was told not to ‘make a fuss’ when my rights were being violated, or I was being bullied or harmed by another. It wasn’t the bully who was reprimanded but it was me who was standing up for myself who was disciplined and shamed. I’m not alone in this, I know.
Ultimately, by letting the emotions move through our bodies and out, they do so once and for all time. That difficult conversation is better to be had in the moment than to fester and get bigger and bigger over time. If not managed in the moment, not only does the pent up emotion come out stronger than it ever needed to be (in a form of blow up or trigger) but we also carry it in our bodies, energetic layers and spiritual layers all this time. Holding the emotions in our bodies creates a raft of health problems and limits the ability to alchemise the outcomes designed for us or that we desire.
Spiritual author Louise Hay channeled a list of physical ailments and the related emotional issues that have caused the health problems like a ready-reckoner. Once the emotions are dealt with the physical ailments can be released. I would have previously thought that this was all a big stretch of imagination if I hadn’t experienced this first hand for myself now. Although, where Louise lists the emotional issues and beliefs that create these physical ailments, I’ve come to learn that there are also deeper layers of emotions, thought-forms and spiritual attacks that impact our physical health issues as well on much deeper layers. All of these blocks and limits come back to the same problem — that we don’t let our unwanted thoughts and emotions run through our system appropriately and we don’t deal with them on all levels of being. We allow our beliefs and thoughts to mean something more than they really are.
The big challenge is to release those negative emotions and negative thought forms that have been stored in our multi-layered selves to keep us well and moving forward in flow and harmony, to live out our life purpose. Once stuck in your system it can be difficult to let them work through. For those (like me) who no longer have faith in talking therapy and those therapy modalities that force you to relive the emotions and further embed them in your system, then there are a range of ways you can move these stuck emotions and thought forms out of your system. Talking about your problems, in my experience, continues to make them real and you hold onto them even longer. Even well meaning friends who feed on your life challenges as gossip are simply holding you in that unwanted space here on Earth and in other spiritual planes. Don’t get me started on how people use prayer over others to embed this negativity despite their best intentions. Prayer that is negative and is filled with begging and pleading is creating more of what we don’t want. Instead we need to share love light to others and pray for their highest good without imposing our own ideas of what is right, wrong, should or shouldn’t be.
Letting the emotions run through us with our higher awareness observing from an objective point of view is the optimum place to be. If we do so we can own our emotions and determine the root cause of them, which is really the problem at hand and not the symptom that we might be reacting to in the moment.
Recently I was told that someone didn’t like something in particular about the way I touched them, and there was a lot of emotion behind it. The focus was on this particular moment and even a sense of blame was dished out towards me. It seemed incongruent to me as there were plenty of other similar experiences that he didn’t react to. The truth is, that this was simply his problem and a symptom of an unresolved bigger issue behind this. He made the small thing I did mean something to him, and it was likely tied in with something bigger altogether that he made mean certain things. It is likely he collected up evidence over time to support his own beliefs about it too, digging it deeper into his reality. Of course people mean well and don’t know they’re doing such things. Instead of blaming others he could be looking at what made him react that way and what meaning he was assigning to that moment or my actions. That deeper issue really needs to be dealt with for him to be healed and to release it on all levels. My task was to not let this be taken on board and for me to make it mean something to me, that was equally diminishing myself in the process as a reaction to his reaction. We are complex beings! The easy way of saying this is that if you react in some way to something another is doing it is your shit you are carrying and you need to deal with the source cause before blaming others. Conscious relationships always look within before blaming others or assigning meaning to the moment.
When I first started my spiritual path I found that society, including my close friends are all indoctrinated to talk about our problems and in some cases to create a sense of identity and significance around these problems. When we identify with them or as in extreme cases, some people call themselves ambassadors of certain conditions (like depression, anxiety or health conditions) it is highly unlikely they’ll ever be cured of these challenges. Don’t get me wrong, some conditions are not to be healed on any level and believing that is the case is delusional and misleading. There are some conditions that are created for a particular spiritual outcome and no amount of wishful thinking will heal them. There are also those beings who choose to exit planet Earth by way of these illnesses or conditions and cannot be negotiated out of it due to their free will.
There are a few modalities that I rate highly for the process of releasing pent up emotions stuck in our bodies including energy therapies such as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), or even Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). Some rank EMDR or Rapid Eye Movement highly and statistics show that this method is successful at healing many (although, honestly, I personally didn’t see results from it). These processes all allow us to focus in on an aspect of an emotional disregulation that has turned into a type of energy ‘zap’ stuck in our bodies. These zaps are usually associated with certain thoughts or triggers and seem to come up out of nowhere. Once these zaps are broken by creating new neural pathways using these types of processes we use our neural plasticity to heal them and release them through out bodies. However, this is only the start it seems!
I’ve worked through many PTSD triggers successfully, with EFT in particular, and released myself from a lot of the zaps that send me into a spin when I least expect them. I felt like I was broken for so long with PTSD. I have certified in over twenty-three different modalities and spent a fortune on trying to heal myself as a continual pursuit of getting back to my old pre-trauma self. It was Christ Consciousness who told me to ‘stop thinking I’m broken’ and to see who I am now in a different light. Instead of trying to ‘fix’ myself or to undo the past I am learning to allow the triggers to pass through me and accept them as part of who I am now. Just about every human will go through traumatic experiences, if not in this lifetime in many before. Once we accept that we are emotional beings, and that our emotional reactions are a fair and reasonable way to respond to difficult life circumstances, then we start to love ourselves unconditionally for all that we are including these triggers and we love and accept others for theirs. Our focus then becomes about living in the moment, letting the emotions run through our bodies and acknowledging them without judgement.
The real goal here is to limit the time the negative emotions are living in our system when they do appear. I am under the impression that under seventeen seconds is the optimum. If we keep under this threshold we also prevent the related negative thought-forms getting stuck in our spiritual layers — which is where the real harm is done.
Once we get to a place of radical acceptance we are better able to do the real work which is to release the stuck thought forms and psychic blocks that are really what hold us back. I spent years going to healers and following random spiritual practices to supposedly heal myself, but the real work wasn’t considered. I’ve come to know that our negative thought forms exist in a physical form in other dimensional aspects of our being like Silly String being sprayed randomly out into the cosmos. Within this string of thoughts there are negative ones that are tangible and can catch our alter ego version of ourselves, like a bird being caught in a net. We can hang there in distress, lifeless having given up the fight. If we don’t align with the full version of our greater self we get stuck and can’t progress here on Earth or to ascend through spiritual levels either.
Once you know what is really holding you back we can be released from these negative thought forms. It is the work of our angel team who come down and dive bomb us out of these sticky nets. I know that sounds hilarious. I laughed too! My angel team really do have a sense of humour and I thought they were being funny when they showed me this. I got a very clear message that it wasn’t funny at all, and was their most important job in the cosmos as a species here to assist humanity in this way as one of their core purposes. Awkward moment!
In my own case, once a particular negative thought form had been released I was permitted to heal of cancer and my spirit team showed me how to work with them to make it a reality. I was shown how specifically I needed to heal, what processes to go through and even what crystal I needed to amplify the energy (even though I didn’t believe in crystals). Once I was pre-briefed on what was needed I could activate the process and…voilà — I was healed of cancer, once cell at a time just in time to avoid surgery.
Letting the emotions run through our bodies is a great way forward to deal with our emotions, negative thought forms and therefore in turn our physical health. We have been designed for this, if only more of us knew.
Firstly, we need to accept that we are emotional beings living in quite difficult circumstances and all of us experience trauma and challenges. We are all equal and need to unconditionally love ourselves and others for all that we are. Once we do this we no longer need to ‘let go’ of the emotions, but let them work through our body and away from us for good.
Secondly, we need to diagnose the negative thought forms, stuck emotions and even psychic attacks on us that are creating health issues and limiting our progress in the spiritual realms. Once that’s identified then we can go through a sequence of steps to clear these unwanted conditions and get us back to operating in a state of flow and alchemy with our spirit team, as one co-operative eco-system.
All of this comes down to one pertinent reminder from my spirit friend Christ Consciousness — all of the healing and alchemy comes from asking directly for assistance from him and it is available and within us all. We don’t actually need any specialist modality or healing process, and just need to ask and allow.