Treat Your Friends Better Than Their Partners Treat Them

Jealous of our friendship? You should be.

Photo by Surface on Unsplash

I like to think that I am good to my friends. I do my best to be there for them, to take care of them when they’re having a bad time, and generally spend time letting them know that they’re special to me. My wife is the same way, and we often “tag-team” our friends to make sure they know how awesome they are. We’ll often drop everything to go support them with something they need help with and are emotionally available for them if they need to vent.

That having been said, I know that I have had at least a couple of friends whose partners were mildly threatened by this. They didn’t like the idea of a friend being closer than they were. My friendship was, in some ways, a threat to their partnership because I like to make my friends feel loved. To that I say this:

Up your game.

If you feel like my friendship with your partner is overpowering your affection for them, maybe that’s more of a reflection on you than on either them or me (or my wife). Maybe reflect on yourself and figure out what is making you jealous and insecure about our friendship because 99 times out of 100, it’s not them, it’s you.

Okay, maybe I’m being a little flippant about this, but in all seriousness, I’ve…