When to Move On From a Relationship
While some may find relationships highly confusing in this day and time, I have to remind you that it is more simple than you think. Relationships are not complicated when you understand and receive the signs God sends to you daily. Your feelings and intuition are a huge indicators as to whether or not you should be with someone.
Take a moment to think about the relationship you are currently in.
How does it make you feel?
I’m not talking about if you are happy all the time. Quite frankly, your happiness is your own job. You cannot find it outside of yourself.
I mean when you are around them, do you feel passionate and elevated in a special way that you haven’t felt before? This is more than the infatuation and obsession you may encounter when you first get together. You just feel a sense of peace being around them. They should calm and feed your entire soul.
Of course, your feelings are important, but even bigger than that, you have to decide if this person makes you a better person.
If you would not want to be this person, considering every aspect of their lives and character, then you should certainly end the relationship.
The people you spend time with should be a reflection of who you want to be, not who you were.
Do you find yourself becoming worse the more time you spend time with them?
Are you arguing more than usual, coming out of the character you’ve worked so hard to build?
Then, that is a clear sign your relationship has come to an end.
Holding on to someone who is bringing you down does not just affect you. It affects the person around you as well. Always remember, your life isn’t just about you. God has given you a certain group of people to serve while you are here on earth. If you spend too much time in an unhealthy relationship, think about who’s life you are missing out on positively impacting or negatively destroying. The world is watching you, whether you want them to or not.
Your relationships are an example to the world of how you believe other people should be treated. If you are willing to tolerate it, then other people who look up to you will think it’s ok too.
Even if you are certain your relationship should continue because you feel good in it, and they are making you a better person, you should look out for four more red flags that it’s time to let it go.
- The Communication is Dwindling
Maybe you all once had a deep sense of connection with one another, but now you just can’t seem to hold each other’s hearts for long. You find yourself going for days without talking, and you have made it clear that you desire to have consistent communication. Yet and still, they are no where to be found mentally, physically, and emotionally. Even if you all are in the same room or just chatting on the phone, the non-verbal cues are blaring that they just don’t want to be there in that moment with you.
2. The Concern for Your Pain Has Diminished
You share your deepest needs and desires that are missing from the relationship, yet they don’t seem to even try to meet them. Maybe you wish to have them spend more time with you on a personal level, cutting out all distractions. You find that they do the exact opposite, even when you have made it clear and have communicated in a tactful manner. You may even show how vulnerable you are by telling them why this is important to you, but nothing changes. It may seem like they just don’t care at all. They may tell you they do care to keep you connected to them, but it’s evident that they have not attempted to make the changes to secure your heart.
3. The Attempts to Correct Behaviors Stops
“Changed behavior is the best apology.”
Within your relationship, you both should be evolving and changing to meet the needs of one another. If they continue to make the same mistakes, then they have no desire to change from doing the things that bother you most. They can certainly sweet talk you to give them another chance. However, if they don’t change, then you won’t be happy in the relationship. You will find yourself emotionally drained trying to stay in something that was never designed to make you better.
4. The Happiness You Once Had Subsided
As I stated earlier in this article, you are responsible for your own happiness. That includes choosing who you allow to be a part of your life. You are the CEO of you. No one can make you happy. They may bring traits, experiences, or security that would make you happy or unhappy. You get to decide whether or not you want them to provide what they bring, which in turn dictates your level of happiness.
If you were once happy with what they brought to the table, but now see that they no longer are bringing those things or better, then it is time to cut the relationship lose.
Conclusion
You should not stay in any relationship that is not furthering your growth in life. If having someone in your life is turning you into the person you never wanted to be, then you have to make the difficult choice to let go now. Not letting go is only hurting your chance for a successful relationship that will take you higher in life.
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