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Adaptability — A Gift From My Father

Not a gift I ever asked for, but glad I received it.

Stephen J. Lalla, LMNOP
The Optimal Life
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5 min readNov 18, 2023

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Being one of 12 kids growing up in an Italian Catholic family in New Orleans, Louisiana, my father imparted to each of us many gifts, which, at the time, I considered a hardship. The one gift my father indoctrinated upon me was that of adaptability. Like many of life’s early lessons, I never realized it at the time. Still, it would serve me throughout my life, and I will forever be grateful for that gift, though learning it was far from easy.

My grandfather started a business in 1925 that my brothers and sisters still operate. When I was probably around 8, I began working at that business, a corner grocery store near a housing project on the corner of Magazine and Melpomene Streets. It wasn’t in a ghetto, at least I don’t think it was, but it certainly was in a predominantly poor black neighborhood. I worked there most weekends and holidays doing whatever odd chores one would assign an 8-year-old. The one that taught me adaptability was cleaning the store toilets.

Now, these toilets were for all employees and customers. If you’ve ever been in a public toilet or one that serves many, you know how it is pretty nasty. Well, at that time, we…

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Stephen J. Lalla, LMNOP
The Optimal Life

The Optimal Life, It’s Not Perfect, Just Better! I’ve been on a many decade quest to optimize my life in all areas and would love to help you do the same.