The Craving of Kindness

What I find myself needing more and more.

Vanessa Brown
Published in
5 min readDec 19, 2022

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I recently started dating again after a hiatus of more than four years. When I say dating, I’ve been on a total of two dates with the same woman.

When you’re in the world of dating, you’ll ultimately get asked the following question:

What are you looking for in a partner?

My answer is simple: kindness.

In a world that appears to have gone bat-shit crazy, kindness has become an all-too-necessary commodity. Personally, I believe that kindness is pretty much the answer for everything.

Like many of you, I have spent my fair share of time in relationships where kindness was sorely lacking — on both parts. Over the last five years as I’ve travelled far more extensively and lived in multiple communities and cultures, I’ve realized how precious kindness actually is and I’ve started to crave it.

The pandemic showed, in equal measures, the power of kindness as well as the destruction caused by lack thereof.

As Jessica Wildfire writes:

I see people claiming to care about our mental health, when they’re actually causing us great harm. I see them talk…

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Vanessa Brown

Author, content creator, teacher, and recovering digital nomad. I have lived in six countries, five of them with a cat: thewelltravelledcat.com.