Why do Narcissists Gaslight their Partners?

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that can leave you feeling crazy and lost

Nicole Dake
Published in
5 min readJul 24, 2023

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Have you ever been in a relationship with a narcissist? Do you wonder why they start off being so charming only to change? Do you wonder why the manipulation started, or what you did wrong to cause this?

The answer is, narcissists don’t function the way that normal people do, so a relationship with a narcissist isn’t like a normal relationship. You haven’t done anything wrong to deserve this treatment. The relationship changed because a narcissist wants to have power and control over you.

A relationship with a narcissist can make you feel crazy, because they seemed so loving and caring at the beginning. Then, abruptly things changed. They make you feel like it is your fault, or you did something wrong, then you have to do something to win back their love and get things back to the way that they were at the beginning.

One of the many tools that a narcissist uses to make you feel crazy is called gaslighting. It is a familiar term to many of us, but what does it mean, and why does the narcissist do this?

According to Very Well Mind,

“Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships…

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