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You Don’t Have to Forgive the Narcissist — Here’s Why
Forgiving an abuser is not a virtue at all
Many self-help articles out there tell you that you have to forgive the narcissist or toxic person in your life. They say this is the only way to move on and be happy. I am here to tell you that this is not true!
To be happy and peaceful, you don’t have to forgive the narcissist or toxic person. Doing so can be very harmful to you.
The power of the harasser, the abuser, and the narcissist depends above all on the forgiving of a victim.
1. Forgiving the narcissist or toxic person can be very harmful to you
If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist or toxic person, you know how damaging it can be. Forgiving them can be just as harmful.
When you forgive someone, you say that what they did was okay. You are forgiving them for the pain and damage that they caused you.
This can be very harmful to your mental and emotional health. It can keep you trapped in an abusive relationship and prevent you from moving on.
