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Feeling Alone in Parenthood: When Marriage Doesn’t Mean Shared Parenting
Breaking the resentment cycle
(This post has been read and approved by my other half.)
Parenting alone sucks — especially when you’re married.
I’m married and have three kids and for over a decade, I felt like I was parenting alone. Our home life felt more like a nightmare than a partnership. I was overwhelmed and stressed out all the time.
My husband’s job requires him to start his physically demanding work early every morning. He comes home exhausted by mid-afternoon and needs to take a nap. After dinner, his habit was to unwind by playing games on his phone and watching videos while I cleaned up the kitchen, finished laundry, put the kids to bed, and all that goes with that.
It felt like I was always ‘on’ while he got to clock out. My resentment was huge.
I felt like I was parenting alone.
My husband was right there but yet unavailable to help me or the kids. It was devastating to our marriage and it drove a wedge between us.
When we fought about this, my husband would say he was tired after working all day. I’d fire back, “What the heck do you think I’ve…
