Mornings can often be hectic, especially during the work week.
You typically have little time to even talk to your partner or laugh with or cuddle or do any of that fun stuff before you’re out of bed, taking a shower, grabbing something quick for breakfast, and running out the front door.
I’ve been lucky enough to not have to rush out the door in the morning, my teaching schedule the last couple of semesters in the afternoon, but my partner has a job he needs to always get to bright and early on weekday mornings, sometimes even weekend mornings. I’m lucky to spend even ten minutes with him after waking up before he’s in the shower and hurrying to the garage, ready to get another busy day started.
But even though there might not be much time to be romantic with your partner in the morning, there are still a few simple things you can do that keep the relationship growing every day.
My partner and I do these three things every morning, and you should too!
1. Share an embrace.
This can be right after you wake up or it can be right before they leave the house for work. A few seconds are fine. Many, many minutes on end is better. But before you get started with your day, you’re going to want to find at least one moment to share a moment of intimacy with your partner.
My partner and I often share an embrace in bed. His work schedule fluctuates enough that I don’t know how long I have with him in the morning, so I take every minute I can get to put my arms around him. Often we don’t say a word to each other. We just enjoy the silence and hold each other close.
It’s one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner. It shows how much you care for each other.
If your partner is already showering by the time you wake up, still make the effort to give them a hug before they step out the door. Even five seconds holding each other can make all the difference.
2. Kiss your partner on the lips.
Again, like with the embrace, this doesn’t have to be long. It doesn’t have to be a ten-minute make-out session in the bed (although those can certainly be fun too!). It doesn’t even have to be longer than a few seconds.
But before your partner leaves for the day, make sure you kiss them, and have it be a good kiss. Not on the cheek or the forehead or something like that. Make sure it’s on the lips.
And this isn’t the time to give your partner a soft peck you would reluctantly give one of your grandparents. Make the kiss a good one. Make it count!
Before my partner leaves in the morning I make sure to kiss him good-bye. Even if that means having to get out of bed and hurry into the garage if he’s in a rush.
At least one kiss every morning should be the rule. Have it be a real kiss, at least three to five seconds. Have it be romantic and meaningful.
I’m telling you, one brief kiss with your partner will make both your days go so much better!
3. Tell your partner “I love you.”
I know we throw around that phrase so often sometimes it feels like it doesn’t mean anything. I’ve heard people say it over and over again when talking to their partners or children or parents on the phone it seems to come out of their mouths like “the” or “like” to the point where they don’t even know they’re saying it.
My partner and I tell each other “I love you” every morning, and you know what? I mean it when I say it. I say it with gusto. I look forward to saying it when he leaves for work.
Because to me saying “I love you” tells my partner he’s my world, he’s my everything. It shows that neither of us is going anywhere emotionally, and that we’re committed to each other for another splendid day.
You can say it to your partner when you wake up, or when they get out of bed. The best time to say it is probably when they are leaving for work. Hearing “I love you” and saying “I love you” is a great way to start the day!
So even when your mornings are crazy busy, find time to do these three things with your partner.
Yes, even on the absolute craziest mornings. Even when the stress is getting to you and you have all of ten minutes to get ready, you can find a few seconds or longer to embrace your partner, kiss them on the lips, and say “I love you.”
You can do all three at the same time if you want. Before your partner leaves, hold them close, kiss them on the lips, and say the three words. You can make the time for this, always. Don’t say you can’t.
I know this seems super simple, but I’m telling you, my partner and I have been doing these three things every morning for the past six years, and they really do make our relationship stronger. They make each of our days a little bit better, and they demonstrate how much we care about each other.
So give it a try with your partner the next few days and see how doing this makes you feel. You might find doing these three things perks both of you up for the rest of the day and brings you closer to your partner in all sorts of wonderful ways.
Brian Rowe is a writer, teacher, and constant dreamer. He received his MFA in Creative Writing and MA in English from the University of Nevada, Reno, and his BA in Film from Loyola Marymount University. He’s on Facebook and Twitter, and you can read more of his work at brianrowebooks.com.