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How to Make Your Gay Crush Like You Back
Don’t just jump into bed with him. Here’s how to make him respect you and want to spend more time with you.
It’s frustrating as a gay man to have a crush on another guy who doesn’t like you back.
As a gay friend of mine told me long ago, “Here’s the deal. That guy you have a crush on is one of three things. Straight and not interested. Gay and not interested. Or gay and interested. The odds are not in your favor.”
Yes, the odds are not in your favor, and that’s the sad truth of gay dating. Thankfully online dating has definitely helped with that most important matter of figuring out if the guy is straight or gay. That’s not as much an issue today as it was fifteen years ago, when I started going on dates with men.
But gay dating is still a tricky business. Because so many guys out there just want to have sex, and fewer want to actually get to know you and potentially build a relationship with you.
This is not to say that going to bed with your gay crush is the worst thing in the world — it definitely is not — but what happens when you have a crush on another guy you desperately want to like you back?
