Unpopular Opinion: If You’re Looking For Reasons To Be A Victim, Then You’re Not A Victim

It’s just attention-seeking behavior.

Bryan Havoc
Nov 22 · 3 min read
Photo by Phil Goodwin on Unsplash

I’ve spent enough time on social media to notice a disturbing trend among people with too much time on their hands: searching for victimhood.

They look for books, television shows, movies, or any other form of media where they weren’t the target demographic so they can go through it and find something about it that makes them the victim of it.

Going Out Of Their Way

It almost feels like they’re going out of their way to hurt themselves. Imagine a large field with only one tractor. Now imagine someone going straight for that tractor, laying down in front of it, and screaming when it runs over their leg.

Yes, there are people who are spending actual time to go out of their way to find things to make entire social media or blog rants about. Sometimes you can even tell that they did not even watch, read, or listen to the thing that they’re complaining about.

You can tell because the minute they’re corrected, they’ll pretend like they’re being bullied. They’ll still find some way to twist it into them being the victim of online abuse, but why?

It’s Almost If They’re Doing It For Attention

It’s the grown-up way of children harming themselves for attention. If some children notice that their parent isn’t giving them the kind of attention that they’re craving, then they will go out of their way to hurt themselves. It’s a way of invoking a reaction, even if it’s a negative one because at the end of the day — it’s still attention.

It’s almost as if these adults who go out of their way to actually seek something to hurt themselves using something that has no intention of hurting them so they can invoke the ire of those who truly enjoy it. Then when facts and logic are presented, they can claim harassment.

Again, it’s negative attention, but it’s attention they can use to pad their own belief that they are truly victimized. Why not put the energy towards real victims? People who didn’t go out of their way to be victims? Actual targets of harassment? The sympathy should be towards those who were minding their own business before getting slammed by a tractor, not ones who sought out the tractor and stood right in front of it on purpose.

Don’t Take This As Discrediting Real Victims

There are movies, tv shows, books, and other media out there that specifically target people. It’s unfortunate. They make a conscious effort to make sure that they’re offending or oppressing a certain demographic and to that I say — the target audience has every right to feel victimized.

However, if you’re walking around the giant field looking for something to hurt you, then you weren’t a victim in the first place. It might be an unpopular opinion, but it needed to be said because how can you live a life where you’re constantly looking for reasons to be upset?

Sorry, but it needed to be said.

Bryan Havoc

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Healthcare professional moonlighting as a freelance comedy writer, poet, and debuting horror author.

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