You Are Good Enough

Thinking is good until you overdo it.

Katy Velvet
Sep 23, 2019 · 3 min read

Overthinking may not seem bad on the surface. But just like anything else, doing it in excess can become problematic.

When we think too much, it robs us of our mental energy. In fact, we start to create problems for ourselves instead of actually solving them.

Over the years, I’ve realized that thinking too much was preventing me from living my best life.

Here are 3 powerful habits that have helped me throughout my journey to self-fulfillment.

Focus on progress rather than perfection.

One of the biggest causes of negative self-talk is the pressure we put on ourselves for “getting it right.”

As humans, we strive for perfection. However, when we don’t meet our own expectations, we tend to beat ourselves over it and start to feel worthless for not being good enough.

What we don’t seem to realize is that working toward our goals is part of the journey. Instead of obsessing about where other people are in their lives, focus on yourself.

Give yourself credit for making progress and coming as far as you have. Every failure is a lesson in disguise and it’s important to view your mistakes as a learning opportunity.


Compete with yourselves, not others.

The idea of competition has always gotten a bad reputation and that’s because people always focus on winning. However, being a winner doesn’t necessarily mean to get to the finish line first.

The only person you should be competing with is yourself.

Think about your own abilities and set realistic goals that are attainable. Strive to be the best version of yourself and commit to growing a little every day.

Remember, your beginning is different than someone else’s middle.


Tell yourself that you are good enough.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

It’s easy to be dragged down by our own thoughts, but remember that they do not always reflect reality.

In fact, they may be warped or simply untrue.

We are often our worst critics and even though we are kind to others, we may not be to ourselves.

The truth is, your approval is the only one that matters. And once you tell yourself that you are good enough, self-love will become easier every day.


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Katy Velvet

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A 31-year-old writer with a lifetime of stories about mental health, gender inequality and an incurable obsession with cats.

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