Never Let Doubt Get In Your Way: 10 Tips to Look More Confident
Feel Empowered and Confident
We all have been there, feeling vulnerable and embarrassed of usual things, not being able to look people in eye because we have less courage. It’s Ok to feel vulnerable from time to time we are humans, not robots.
The only way to empower yourself is first by accepting your weakness and not showing it to everyone. I’m not saying never to share your feelings, do share but only with your supportive friends or family and if you have neither my dear you are walking through a thorny path and you have to stay strong and be patient there will be someone waiting for you on the other end.
In the meantime, here are some tips you can use to feel empowered and more confident, compelling others to treat you the same.
Raise your sightline
Look straight and forward instead of always looking downwards all the time. Looking down undeniably defeats your confidence and lots of opportunities pass by you without your knowing.
When you look down while walking it gives a submissive vibe to others from you, they are more likely to notice your weakness and take advantage of you.
So lift that chin up, pull your neck back and start looking forward and not downwards.
Your Body is a Language
Posture is the key. An erect back is the body language of confidence. People judge you even before they get to talk to you.
Body language reveals a lot about someone. Slouching give others the idea that you’re an easy-going person and they take you lightly. Instead of leaning towards people, make them lean towards you.
You can fix this by starting from the dinner table, instead of leaning towards your supper bring your supper towards you.
Less Talking
Confident people always tend to talk less, this is because they know they don’t have to justify themselves. This also compels people to take you seriously.
Also, the more a person talks, the deeper the hole they dig for themselves. So, it’s better to talk less but authentic. It’s more about the quality than the quantity.
Keep your answers and sentences short and direct, don’t start wondering the conversation somewhere where others feel happy with you. Be a total badass.
Voice Matters
Raise your voice, raise it enough to be heard properly. Don’t be the only one in the room who always talks so softly that it becomes difficult to hear them.
Use a moderate voice to make your suggestion to be heard properly. Don’t give others any chance to take you lightly. Make your voice clear to be heard.
Stop People Pleasing
Stop pleasing people, people pleasing is the demise of confidence. If others don’t like something it’s their problem it’s not your job to make everyone happy, it’s theirs to keep themselves happy if they fail to do so it’s their incompetence.
You are not responsible for others’ behavior or their emotions. You’re here to take care of yourself.
Respect Your Boundaries
Aside from what to do to boost your confidence, there are things you should not let others do.
Draw a clear line. Don’t let anyone walk through it. If you don’t like something, you don’t like it, end of the line.
Respect others’ boundaries but respect your boundaries first.
Self-care a Starter Package
Self-care equals self-esteem equals confidence. Take good care of your hygiene, and brush your teeth. Instead of taking a quick shower, bathe properly. Wear good clothes, go for fit clothing size rather than large baggy clothes.
Take yourself out shopping buy yourself an ice cream or two, and buy yourself clothes like you are your girl. Invest in yourself, you will gradually see a difference in your confidence. Love yourself.
Responsibilities
Develop a habit of taking responsibilities with calculated consequences. This presents you in others’ view as a confident risk-taker person.
This pushes you out of your comfort zone to a position where you will be seen as a leader. It also makes you alpha in the room. People tend to admire those who take charge.
They need a role model, it’s in the psychology of humans that they need someone dependable to look up to. Since childhood human needs someone to look up to. To a child, his parent knows everything so he follows them and respects them.
They take you as a role model and look up to you, follow you, and respect you.
Learn to Lead
Learning is the key to unlocking every door. Always learn, learn new skills, and read a book or an article to keep yourself updated.
You may have heard that great entrepreneurs have read hundreds of books before they accomplish where they are right now.
Always learn new skills in your area of expertise, so you can be the one to lead the people in the room. The others will admire you for your excellence and you will feel more confident.
Self-encouragement
Encourage yourself, pat yourself on the back. Believe in yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and compliment yourself every day.
Not just compliment yourself alone but also do it in front of your colleagues or classmates but don’t overdo it or else you will look silly. Do it seldom just enough to make others mind that you value yourself.
Through all of this, one thing you should remember is never to let the praises and attention of others throw you off track. Keep your focus straight and keep on striving for being the best version of yourself.
“You’re never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you’re never as bad as they say when you lose.” — Lou Holtz
There are things you can control and there are things you cannot control. Accept the fact that you are not perfect nor do you have to be. Everyone feels doubtful from time to time, but what messes up is when you show your weakness in front of everyone. This only worsens your condition. Try to keep the damage to a minimum.
Whenever you are feeling down it’s a sign that you are not fulfilling your needs properly, take a time out and care for yourself for a while.
And here is a Bonus, for getting quick confidence on demand, it’s like an energy drink.
Imagine yourself naked. It may sound stupid but it works. Imagine yourself sitting naked while talking to someone. It will give you the power of acceptance, acceptance of your flaws. And it will surely give you a quick boost of your confidence.
Just don’t be naked or you will regret it… Lol.
