What Taking Myself Out on a Date Means To Me

I learned one thing from my breakup — everything you need from others can be found within yourself.

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Taking yourself out on dates means that you can provide yourself with all the love, affection, and attention that you seek from others instead of waiting and chasing these things from romantic partners, family members, or friends.

You need to be your own home before ever being anyone else’s and put yourself first no matter what. This way, you will be more independent and wiser when it comes to who to pick as a part of your life.

Taking myself out on dates helped me get to know myself better, know where I need to work on myself, and figure out my strengths. It helped me enjoy my own company, leaving myself satisfied without needing others’ attention.

I felt less lonely knowing I have myself as a true friend, and that helped me become more confident and know my worth better.

Taking myself out on a date means giving myself a time of my day when I’m not working, overthinking, or stressing. Instead, I’m enjoying my time, feeding my soul, doing something that makes me feel happy, or working on my healing.

Dates can really be as simple as:

1. Long car rides: I make a list of my favorite songs, get my favorite snack, and go out all by myself, singing out loud and feeling the music as it runs in my veins before making a stop where the view is fabulous to eat my snacks and enjoy every single bite of ‘em. And that’s how I get back home happy.
2. Getting creative: I don't know how to draw, but sometimes I just feel like painting all that’s in my heart out on paper, and so I do. No matter how good or bad it turns out, drawing is something that calms my mind and helps me feel good all the time.
3. Writing: Writing is another way to get creative for me. As I pour my heart out on paper smoothly, I feel better and less burdened by all the thoughts and feelings that had been eating away at me. Sometimes I even write a poem, which feels amazing. Spending my time on writing makes me happy.
4. Going on an adventure: If you love nature, this one is for you. Sometimes I decide it’s time to connect with nature a bit, get some fresh air, and go a little crazy and wild, so I know it’s time for an adventure date. I get all I need ready, and I find somewhere amazing where I can hike, explore, breathe, move, connect, think clearly, or even not think at all, and most importantly, where I can feel connected to nature and myself. This type of date leaves me feeling free, wild, happy.
5. Dancing: As I dance, I can feel myself getting out of my head, existing at the moment to the point where sometimes I even forget who I am. I feel free, moving my body the way I want, the way I like, taking up space. I feel like myself as I dance. And I get reminded of the beauty of our bodies, the way we move and feel. Which leaves me loving myself more.
6. Meditating: Meditating for me is observing my thoughts, diving within my mind to understand the way I think, working on existing at the moment, living it, and feeling all that’s surrounding me. This type of date helps me understand myself.
7. Shadow Working: We must heal, and that’s what shadow working is for. I love my healing dates because I need to heal to let go and move forward, and I'm in love with that.
8. Goals Session: Setting goals for the future leaves you living with purpose, working for something, and trying to achieve your dreams.

You don’t have to date yourself the way I do — all you need to do is take some time for yourself to do something that makes you happy and makes you bloom.

I hope this article inspired you to start this self-dating journey; I promise you will never regret it.

Thank you for taking the time to read.