Lighthouses Don’t Go Running
How rescuer syndrome camouflages our shadows
Rescuer syndrome is a thing. That’s when we want to constantly help and save others. Here is the thing: being a rescuer can camouflage our own shadows.
By constantly attending to others, we can hide from looking deeply at ourselves and where we are not fine, for the truth is, as long as we are still walking on Earth, we all have some darkness within.
We can also have difficulty receiving, and so we only focus on giving. Our ability to receive is connected to our own self-love: do we truly believe we are worthy of receiving all wonders of this life?
Being a rescuer can hide a sense of superiority, as we can act more patronizing than we realize. It shows our inability to accept and to be patient with other people’s processes. Finally, there’s our need of being needed. What if, deep down, no one needs our help at all?
Don’t get me wrong, we are to help others, just as we are to help ourselves. We are to help, and to be helped.
We are all interconnected beings, meaning we are all to give and to receive. And yes, when we can receive while giving, endlessly feeling the circulation of energy and love, all the better.
