I Quit 80% of My Relationships Thanks to This Quote From Brené Brown

Many people don’t want to hear this but need it most.

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Some friendships are more toxic than smoking (and more difficult to quit.)

It took me too long to realize it.

Until one day, I was watching a Brené Brown special and heard her say something that clicked in my head.

Brené’s quote that changed everything

“You don’t want to surround yourself with candle blower outers.” — Brené Brown

Listening to Brené, I looked up what “candle blower outers” were and discovered that they are the typical people who don’t want you to thrive.

As a game, I made a list of the people in my life who didn’t want to see me shine: my Candle blower outers.

To my surprise, not only my envious co-workers but also my mother and my father were on that list.

And I realized that the reasons people don’t want to see you shine are 4.

1. They envy you.
2. They think they are better than you.
3. They love you but have an inferiority complex and believe you will abandon them if you…