Even Swingers Struggle To Get It Up Sometimes
Strategies to eliminate insecurities and keep your head in the game
One of the most talked-about topics with couples new to the swinging lifestyle is performance anxiety.
At lifestyle events, the male partner almost always sheepishly asks the more experienced swingers in attendance if the rumors about performance anxiety in the lifestyle are true.
The answer is, yes.
Performance anxiety is definitely a thing in the swinging lifestyle. All of your worries and insecurities often creep in and drown out your excitement to fulfill your fantasies and threaten to disrupt your sexual focus.
It can be a total buzzkill.
The first time my husband and I had swinger sex, we both struggled with performance anxiety. Considering we hadn’t experienced a single performance issue in our 15 years of marriage, it was a blow to both of our egos.
We quickly learned that expecting our bodies to perform like swinging is just business-as-usual was pretty unrealistic — and definitely an amateur move. The whole experience of swinging introduces new stresses and challenges and performance anxiety sometimes just comes with the territory.
