What Do You Remember About the Best Sex of Your Life?
Reflecting on what worked in the past can invite more pleasure into your future.
I rank the sexual encounters I have with my husband, but probably not in the way you would expect.
There’s nothing scientific about it.
If sex was particularly good, or at least better than other encounters in recent memory, I’ll exclaim something like “top five” or “definitely in the top 10!” It’s become my way of telling him how much I appreciate his performance. Plus, it gives him insight into just how satisfied I’m feeling.
As our kids have gotten older and life busier, our focus has shifted from quantity to the quality of our sexual connection. While we used to enjoy sex 6–8 times a week, we’re shooting for just twice lately.
We might not have time to screw like honeymooners during this season of life, but what we lack in time we more than make up for in wisdom and experience.
We’ve spent the last several years adjusting to this new sexual frequency while also trying to learn more about what good sex really means to each of us. What characteristics do all of those “top 5” and “top 10” sexual experiences share, and how do we create that kind of magic more often?
