Attractiveness is subjective
“She is not truly beautiful but something about her draws the eye.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Storm of Swords
Attractiveness is subjective. It’s not a fact but an opinion and most are lead to believe a Victoria secret model body defines it. Others are lead to find themselves knee deep in X-rated content for pleasure which tells them they can have any amount of partners, why settle? With subjectivity and opinions attractiveness is only a factor of your mindset.
If people drink everyday around you, and you are surrounded by party animals, than you are more likely to be one yourself. Who you surround yourself with is who you will become. The foremost fact is that mindsets need to change between yourself and everyone else. It’s easier to work on yourself though. Start there.
“Do not try to be attractive; just be natural because being natural is already attractive!”
― Mehmet Murat ildan
Since attractiveness is subjective, it’s time you reevaluate what you consider attractive because looks matter believe it or not but knowing what you are attracted to is important. I do not wear makeup and in my life that is considered unattractive. But it has attracted the men allergic to most beauty products. Irony considered. But on a mental level you need to weed out what personalities you find attractive and what personalities you do not.
I dislike arrogance nor do I like party driven men. Both are personality quirks I know I would have issues with. What I find attractive is honesty, hard work, and has a sense of humor. By knowing this, I am both peaceful and aware of my personality.
Second is that if you waste time, you have less time to sit in a room and get comfortable with your own demons. No one wants to have their demons. But we are not all rainbow and sunshine. Our demons are a part of us and we need to learn how to either confront them or deal with them.
“Some activities may look attractive, but you don’t have any business dating them, else they break you up. It may be good, but not right. Flee from good things and do right things!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, Daily Drive 365
Once this is done we can say we have made peace with our inner demons and that we need to now find something healthy to do for ourselves. Pick a hobby you think will make you a better person. Don’t just take the opinion of everyone else.
After this I think you can come to an opinion, you have to live life without fear, regret, and anger. Don’t do drugs.
