Escape Into the Moment, Not from It
So many of our diversions are intended to escape a current environment. We should practice presence and living in the moment instead of trying to escape the moment. Confusing ease and comfort for happiness, we avoid the difficult and uncomfortable. A more productive way to grow and become Independently Happy is learning to escape into the moment, not from the moment.
Resilience is the Direction
A good way to determine if we’re escaping into or from the moment is whether or not the task requires grit or resilience.
We need a little grit to do them consistently, to do them when we don’t want to, to find the time when we don’t think we have the time. Yet the doing it when we don’t want to, don’t feel like it, or when we don’t think we have time to do them builds grit.
Those things also build resilience.
During exercise, we tear down our muscles so that they can regrow. We Create Resistance on Purpose. (Regrowth only happens during sleep, by the way.)
Exercise requires some–and builds some–grit and resolve. Exercise makes us stronger, more resilient.
Exercise = Good
If we have a chocolate bar when we think we need one, that doesn’t help us with our resolve, grit or resilience. In fact giving in only makes it easier to give in again. Seeking a healthy alternative the chocolate bar (or cigarette) we think we need takes some grit and resolve, but it builds resilience.
Giving in only makes it easier to give in again.
The Hard Way is the Happy Way to Escape
Some things like laughter and music are easier but beneficial.
Usually, though, the hard way is the happy way.
In addition to the physiological benefits of good sleep, exercise, and nutrition, we also develop the mental benefits of grit and resilience. The progress is compounded physically and mentally.
The pleasurable and diverting ways are tempting because they offer escapes from the uncomfortable. But they often involve us doing things that aren’t healthy in the long term. They’re also usually a method of procrastinating, escape from something we really need to do now.
Please! Take it!
This is why meditation is hard. It’s not comfortable and blissful for us like it is for Instagram and Pinterest models. Our minds wander. We get fidgety. We’ve got too much to do! How the heck can we just sit for an hour when we’ve got so much to do?
It’s just a practice though. It’s not emptying your mind, but practicing control of your thoughts. It’s practice at taking your thoughts where we consciously want them to go.
For ten minutes.
Then Have Some Fun Too!
I’m not suggesting that we can never enjoy those diversions. I love having beers with my friends. My wife bakes some mean cookies and cakes, and oh man our Saturday morning homemade biscuits are delicious!
And although I’m currently behind on Luke Cage and Iron Fist, I love the Marvel shows on Netflix.
Let’s continue to enjoy those things after we contribute to our Happiness Accounts. You know you wanna follow that link and see what Happiness Accounts are.
What’s your favorite–or most tempting–diversion? Mine is chocolate. After a rough day at the office, I really need some chocolate.
What’s yours? Please respond and let us know.
Originally published at www.independentlyhappy.com on August 14, 2017.
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