I Don’t Write Alone
You can’t write in a vacuum. Let other people read your writing. — Ben Brugler
Every day, at 3 am in the morning, I pull myself up from my bed. Immediately, I sit at my desk to write for the next 5 hours until my son wakes up.
It’s a ritual.
On most days, it’s a ritual that’s pure: untainted with coffee, uncensored with cleanliness and untouched with embellishments.
It’s a ritual of curiosity mixed with a dose of high octane hunger for creativity.
It’s a ritual of inspiration interlaced with the friction of adventure unborn.
It’s a ritual of molding, shaping and cutting the excess to get to the point.
For several months now, this ritual of mine has been fueled with gasoline from Social Media.
Many writers will argue that Social Media is the death of productivity. A writer can’t write good material while plugged into Social Media constantly.
I beg to differ.
Writing is a balance exercise
Like most writers, my introverted self dominates my extroverted self on most days.
Like most writers, my introverted self go into hiding when I’m on Social Media plugged into these writing communities.
I like it when my introverted self takes a hike.
I spend my life seeking balance. As I am a pretty intense person in my inner life as well as in my real life, I seek to unleash my extroverted self whenever I can.
Like a puppy, I must walk my extroverted self into the world. I command my extroverted self to fulfill its needs and desires. Once obedient, in my writing sessions, my extroverted self can sleep while my introverted self takes over.
During the day, when single motherhood puts me on an emotional rollercoaster, I interact with writers in these supportive writing communities.
We share our writing, discuss materials and vent our frustrations.
As writers, we have sensitivities that few can understand. The nonjudgemental attitudes in these writing communities are probably the reason for their success.
Everyone’s neurotic. Everyone’s hyper-sensitive. Everyone’s struggling.
Drama is the fuel
Occasionally, you hear people complain about drama. But, the drama is simply another kind of creative fuel. Sometimes, women are blamed for being good at identifying this fuel and harvesting it for their creative endeavors. The truth is that all creative people can not simply shy away from a good dose of inspiration.
They wait for it. When they see it, they pounce.
Good writing is dramatic. Good writing is often grand. Good writing speaks to the soul with extra elaborations.
Human connection leads to the development of ideas
While I’m in these writing communities on Social Media, people’s words, phrases, and their experiences inspire me every day. Even in the digital space, I thrive on these kinds of human connections.
Often, I find myself thinking through the entire plot of my essay during the day. Then, after sharing with peers in these communities for a while, I realize that I have just validated all my ideas point by point.
When I sit down to write, I am often pouring buckets. I have excessive amounts of well-developed ideas just from spending time in these Social Media outlets.
In love and nurturing, good writers become great writers
I’m a writer who is constantly struggling with imposter syndrome, perfectionism and the frustrations from not having enough time to write. In these writing communities, I meet writers who are struggling with similar issues. They help me push through my fears with a gentle nudge and kind words.
- When a person is harshly critical, that person has the skills to generate perfect sentences that describe the most complex subjects in a kind of poetic prose wonderland.
- When a person feels fiercely inadequate, that person is hungry to create in every minute of every day. In those long hours of practice, that person obtains the skills to paint pictures that are vivid, heartfelt and saturated with emotional beauty that few can match.
Let’s give this person a hug. We are good at giving hugs verbally. We are writers.
This person who has the internal energy of a sports car can potentially self-destruct from 0 to 60 flat. But, we won’t let that happen. This person has the potential to become a GREAT writer.
In the writing communities on Social Media, we nurture this person to help this person reach his or her creative goals in a less destructive manner.
- Through everyday interactions, this person finds a home where words matter.
- Through everyday interactions, this person finds a playground to test inspirations.
- Through everyday interactions, this person learns to become a GREAT writer.
If you asked me months ago to participate in Facebook writing communities, I would have told you to take a hike.
- I have only these limited hours of my day.
- I will use them to write articles.
- I will use them scout for clients.
After these few months of showing up everyday, I can tell you that my best articles and poems have been written from inspirations that came out of these communities. As days go by, I will participate frequently simply because these communities are home for that neurotic writer in me. That writer in me wants to improve. That writer in me is not satisfied with simply being a “good” writer. That writer in me wants to be a GREAT writer. Most of all, that writer is struggling with obtaining enough balance to live a fulfilled life.
About the Author
Jun Wu is a Content Writer for Technology, AI, Data Science, Psychology, and Parenting. She has a background in programming and statistics. On her spare time, she writes poetry and blogs on her website.